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your better life

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

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Are you living the life you want to live?    A lot of people aren’t living the life they want, they are existing but not living.   As a coach I get to talk to many people who are struggling and want to live a life that is different than the one they are living.

People are looking for a “secret” something that will improve their finances, fix a relationship, boost their career, help them lose weight, help them believe in themselves, repair broken relationships or to find joy and happiness in their lives.  There is no secret formula for creating the life you want without putting in the effort to get what you want.

Maybe the secret is a massive amount of work on the things you value the most.  The secret is starting and doing something that will lead to better results for you.

The point is that unless you do something different today your tomorrow won’t be any better than it was yesterday.   If you are waiting until conditions are perfect, until you have that one missing thing, before you start you’ll never ever start.

Your better life starts when you stop making excuses and decide to transform each day from now on.

How important is your health?

How important is your family?

How important are your relationships?

How important is your career?

How important is your personal and professional growth?

Take a few minutes and write down what is important to you.   Are you honoring what you value?

Many people choose to live a life of misery to show to their neighbors and friends how successful they are.   We equate success with finances and it isn’t working.   There are many, many people who have great bank accounts  who are living in personal poverty.   What is your life really like?  (Feel free to comment … share your story)

get off of your “but’s”

“Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!”
― Steve Maraboli

Get off of your “but’s

Have you ever said, “I would _______________ but _________________”?  Perhaps you have, or you’ve phrased a sentence and then added the word “but”.   But is the word that means “I have an excuse ready for not being able to do it.”   It doesn’t matter what it is the word but is what is used to stop personal and professional progress.

“I would start looking for a new job today but  I don’t have the time.”

“I would quit smoking but I enjoy  it too much.”

“I would lose weight but I stop eating.”

“I would start exercising but I don’t like doing it alone.”

Do any of those statements sound familiar to you?   How do you add the little three-letter word but into your excuses.   They are excuses aren’t they.   There is no intention of making a real change, not when the but word gets put into the sentence.   Using the word “but” gives you permission to delay or stop making the changes in your life that you know would benefit you.

Sean Stevenson would have some good excuses for not living life fully. It doesn’t appear that the word “but” is in Sean’s vocabulary. Meet Sean … listen to his story.

Now I begin

“So many fail because they don’t get started — they don’t go. They don’t overcome inertia. They don’t begin.”   W. Clement Stone

What are your top 10 excuses?   Yes, those pesky things that explain away all the reasons why something could have been done.

1. It was too hard.

2. It wasn’t the right time.

3. I was feeling well enough.

4. I overslept.   (the alarm didn’t go off)

5. I couldn’t find the keys to the car

6. There was too much traffic

The list is much longer than that.

What is your list of favorite excuses?  What is the excuse you’ve heard?

Why do excuses matter in the first place?   What reason do excuses serve?

“Nunc coepi” or “Now I begin”  suggests a life that isn’t littered with excuses.   Nunc coepi suggests a life where you take 100% responsibility for everything in your life.   It starts with an attitude that I am responsible and not circumstances or any other reason why you couldn’t.

Everyday is a new day to start over and start with a fresh outlook on life.   Who will be in charge today, the excuse or the powerful you?    If the alarm didn’t go off admit that you didn’t set it properly.   For almost every reason what something “can’t” happen there is a reason that it could happen.

Identify the critical things in your life.  What is being left up to chance?   Does the alarm clock have a battery in case the power goes off?   Is the battery charged?   There are simple things to do in most cases to avoid having simple things cause big problems.

Jeff Olson the author of “The Slight Edge” says the secret to success begins with your philosophy.     It doesn’t take a lot, it just takes a little each day to reshape the results you are getting.   It takes practice to get better.

“Nunc coepi”,  Now I begin.    Begin to take charge of your world.   Keep the little excuses from becoming big excuses.    Take small steps to increase your success in life and begin today.

What will you start doing:

1. Will you start eating a healthy diet?

2. Will you start exercising?

3. Will you start balancing your life so that you have the time to do the things that hold the most value?

4. Will you start improving yourself?

5. Will you start saving money?

6. Will you start restoring and improving relationships?

7. Will you start being more of who you are?

What will you start today?   When will you begin?

“Nunc coepi” … what is your “Nunc coepi”?

“The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.’  Anais Nin