“It’s being here now that’s important. There’s no past and there’s no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.”
― George Harrison
In life you have to be “present” to win. It’s like a raffle ticket, you have to be there to collect the prize. It’s the same with our life, we have to be there to win and so often we are somewhere else and we miss the opportunity to win the prize.
For many people their career is the target of most of their energy. Sometimes so much energy is put into the career that there is nothing left for other things in life. Vacations get put on hold because the work load increases so quickly that a vacation only means doing more work when you get back.
Living in a world of distractions means that being present to enjoy the moment or participate more fully in life is often pushed to the side.
What does it take to be present?
1. Know who you are?
2. Know where you are?
3. Know what you are doing?
It looks simple doesn’t it? Do you really know who you are? Many people really don’t know “who” they are. They usually know what they aren’t though. Do you know where you are? If you have a plan you must be somewhere on that path to achieving your life’s goal. Do you know where you are? And, do you know what you are doing? Are you asking for help when you want help. Perhaps you don’t want help until you need it and if you wait that long you might be in place you really don’t want to be. Ask for help and seek it before you need it.
Go out and be present in all that you do.
“Many people think excitement is happiness…. But when you are excited you are not peaceful. True happiness is based on peace.”
― Thích Nhất Hạnh
When was the last time you experienced personal peace? In our high tech, high results world we tend to experience more stress than peace.
More and more people are in the grips of stress and it is affecting their health, their outlook on life and it is affecting their emotions. You’ve probably have seen people who are too stressed, too angry and depressed. Those people aren’t experiencing much in terms of personal peace.
It is hard to cram all of what life demands into a 24 hour day and yet people try. They take shortcuts on their exercise, their diet, and their sleep and wonder why they have a short temper, are gaining weight and feel physically ill.
Lissa Rankin has written a book about her personal question for personal peace. One of the remedies getting free of the stuff that creates a lot of stress. For Lissa it was getting away from a stress producing job and creating a less stressful way of life.
Lissa’s process can help you manage stress in your life. Healing starts with a lifestyle that is less hectic.
Because stress impacts our ability to think and keep our emotions intact, here’s another resource that can provide you with information to improve the quality of your life.
Increasing compassion in your life will help you improve your ability to relate and develop relationships with others. Being more generous sends a positive message to others and reduces tension. Kindness will do more good in a tense situation than staying angry. Take charge of your emotions and become more compassionate. Express kindness and see if it increases cooperation with others.
Imagine shifting your language to get better personal and professional results. Perhaps your interactions with others is stressed and it feels uncomfortable. Maybe the relationship with your co-workers or associates isn’t what you want it to be. There are ways to build better relationships. One way is with the words you use (take a look at the short video clip below).
Another way to increase personal peace is through meditation. Just spending a few minutes each day meditation can bring about positive emotional health benefits. To learn more about meditation practices take a look at “How to do Mindful Meditation”.
Learn how to activate personal peace in your life, to reduce stress, increase emotional well-being and to live a happier life.
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“We live, in fact, in a world starved for solitude, silence, and private: and therefore starved for meditation and true friendship.” – C.S. Lewis
How are you feeling about life right now? What are you distracted by? What are you concerned about? What is the state of your mind right now?
Today we are shifting the conversation away from doing and doing more to taking time out to do less. We are talking about freeing the mind and the body of the constant noise we hear from all aspects of our life. Right now turn off the TV, the radio, the phone and any source of external stimulation. Just turn it off for a few minutes.
I want you to observe your mental state and the thoughts you have having. What are they? What thoughts and what feelings do you have right now? Are you at a place of peace and calmness? I didn’t think so. You’re thinking about what to do next. Your mind is cluttered with ideas and thoughts as a constant buzzing and it doesn’t bring about any sense of peace at all.
In the book “The Emotional Life of your Brain” the author Richard Davidson talks about meditation as a way to create new ways to respond and experience thought. In other words meditation or mindfulness helps the brain create new pathways which reduce the negative impacts of stressful situations. Meditation then help one respond rather than react to situations that generate negative emotions.
In a world where there is more and more negative stimulation, taking the time to focus on nothingness helps retrain the brain to shift from negativity to something that is more positive. Quieting the brain creates a greater sense of well-being and peacefulness which is what many people long for.
To help strengthen a more positive outlook without learning meditation you can do the following:
1. Focus on your positive characteristics – write down one of your strengths and one of a person you know well.
2. Be grateful. Be intentionally thankful and keep track of how many genuine thank-you’s you share with others.
3. Complement others genuinely. Look at the Smile & Move campaign for some ideas.
Now take a few minutes sit back and listen to the following clip. Take the time to slow down, and recharge.
“Peace comes from being able to contribute the best that we have, and all that we are, toward creating a world that supports everyone. But it is also securing the space for others to contribute the best that they have and all that they are.”
Where do you find peace? Do you find it in yourself?
At this time of year for many people peace is hard to find. All many people want in their lives is a sense of peace, a sense of purpose and a sense of hope and they are unable to find it. People hope to find peace in others, those who they know, who they have a close relationship with, a family member, or a close friend.
In reality peace is found by looking inward, looking deep inside for a presence that says “I am”. When peace is found inside then peace can be shared outside.