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stop doing list

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“The most important list you’ll ever make is the list of things you’re going to stop doing.”

What is on your list of things to stop doing?

Are there things that you do that don’t matter?  Why do them?

be a seeker

“The only thing that we can know is that we know nothing and that is the highest flight of human wisdom.”  Leo Tolstoycopy-of-italy_turin_2003-112

 

Are you seeking a better today?

Are you continually seeking knowledge which can be transformed into wisdom?

Are you seeing the beauty of today?

What are you doing then?

relentless focus

Listening is an essential attribute in a client coach relationship.  Each of us carries with us a story, a unique story about the past, present and the future.  Our story is filled with the experiences and events that have shaped our lives. 

For example when we are listening we hear the words (content) and then relate them to our contextual framework (our experience).   As we overlay what we hear with our experience (what is in our memory) we “pop out” of the conversation for a moment and depending on the vividness of the story we may “pop out” of the conversation for a few seconds.   When that happens we have lost connection with the story that is being presented (i.e. we are no longer present). 

Intentional listening takes work and like physical exercise needs to be done often in order to improve.   Listen with intent for thirty seconds each day building towards one minute of focused listening (which means silencing the internal critic in the head).  Process the story and allow the story being told to be the only thing that is being processed.   When there are breaks in concentration quickly return to the full focus of listening.

If the speaker mentions “mountains” our mind will imagine a mountain and in many cases our mind will probe the shape, the orientation, height, cliffs, valleys and other features of that mountain and that takes us away from the story.   Those “pops” out of the listening experience need to be very brief in order to be fully present in the listening process.  

It is not that it is wrong to connect our context with the content of the story because that is how we are able to share experiences even though there are vast differences in the context of the story.   We just need to be careful not to escape into our story when we are listening to the story of another person.

Do you “pop out” of the story or are you disciplined in your listening abilities?

How long can you focus on the story of another person?

What can you do to improve your focus?

Now what if your brain becomes full, what do you do?  [This is where we acknowledge the story, through paraphrasing, echoing, questioning …]

seasons

 

Seasons of the year tend to be what most people think about when they think of, spring, summer, autumn, and winter, and those are the seasons. We also have seasons in our life, discovery, accomplishment, significance, and sharing. We can have seasons in a single day, awakening, work, relaxation and sleep.

We are now in the autumn season with respect to how the earth precesses around sun. In life autumn is the season where many reflect on years of work, perhaps in a career only to realize that all that work wasn’t so meaningful. Maybe there is a feeling of restlessness which fuels a desire to do something meaningful during the next few years. Is there a gap in your life where you may be feeling like all life has been is work and without significance? What would make your life significant?

Release your gifts and talents

“What happens to a dream deferred?
Does it dry up
like a raisin in the Sun?
Or —-?

Langston Hughes

“I (Robert Greenleaf) counsel you to be aware of your priceless gift of creativity. No matter how small and flickering a light it may seem to be at the time, cultivate it as a pearl beyond price. Whatever your competence in your chosen field turns out to be, and regardless of the size of the opportunities that may come your way in the foreseeable world, your imaginative capacity will measure the productive use of your strengths and opportunities.” Robert K. Greenleaf “The Power of Servant Leadership”, 98)

Are you aware of the gifts you have?

Have you cultivated your gifts so that you can maximize the results of your gifting?

Are you able to use your gifts in a way that passion is aroused within you?

Granted the questions are yes/no answers, and if the answers are no, what are you going to do to release the gifts that you have hidden away so that they can be a benefit to you and to others?

What can you do today to start utilizing your gifts, talents and strengths?

Your words

What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists and it becomes available only when a man is in that state of mind in which he knows exactly what he wants and is fully determined not to quit until he finds it.
Alexander Graham Bell

There is a real magic in enthusiasm. It spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment.
Norman Vincent Peale

Happiness is not in our circumstances but in ourselves. It is not something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are.
John B. Sheerin

Do your words shape the world or does the world shape your words?

Pause and think about that last sentence. What does it mean to you? Which side of the phrase does your life spend most of its time?

Have you paused … have you contemplated the meaning of that sentence above?

If our words shape the world we can create, we have the ability to change all that is around us, we have the words.

If the world shapes our words then we can become victims of all that there is.

Shape your world with your words.

Gandhi put the thought to words in this way, “You must be the change you want to see in the world.”

It’s a choice – which choice will you make?