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Voices of reason

“As long as we continue to live as if we are what we do, what we have, and what other people think about us, we will remain filled with judgments, opinions, evaluations, and condemnations. We will remain addicted to putting people and things in their “right” place.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen


There is a battle going on in your mind.    It’s the voice of doubt, the voice of fear, the voice of perfectionism, the voice of the victim, the voice of the over-achiever and others.   What voice do you hear when you are ready to make a change in  your life?

The voice you hear wants to stop you and in most cases it does.   It stops dreams, goals,  and desires from being realized.   Just  a small amount of doubt will stop people from doing something big in their life and push them back into mediocrity.    When you challenge yourself, when you want to make a change, what do you hear, experience and feel?

Shirzad Chamine the author of “Positive Intelligence”  labels the voices.  Meet the voice of the saboteur:

1. The  stickler,  looking for perfection

2. The pleaser,  gaining acceptance and affection, a rescuer

3. The hyper-achiever, performance means self-respect, external success driven

4. The victim, inwardly focused, blames others, seeks attention, gives up easily

5. The hyper-rational, data driven, arrogant, without feelings, aloof

6. The hyper-vigilant, anxious, always on guard, doubt filled, suspicious

7. The restless, seeking something better, busyness, rarely at peace, scattered, lacks focus.

8. The controller, desire to take charge and control situations, impatient

9. The avoider,  puts off challenging tasks, passive-aggressive behavior.

Which one do you hear most often?  Which one is the loudest?

Change happens when you are able to quiet the voice of the saboteur and listen to the voice of the sage.

Changing hearts – changing minds

There is one that comes to mind Frances Hesselbein, one of the leaders of the girl scouts and the one to transform the entire organization.   Her theme in the article in Leader to Leader is about changing hearts, changing minds to changing lives.   Positive change is about just that informing the heart which then works on the inner workings of the mind.   Once the mind is transformed the outcome can be lives changed, perhaps thousands.   There are many leaders who had a vision for great change and some of those visions are alive today.

People like Mother Teresa who was able to transform the ugliest of slums to a place of hope (for some).  

Who are the change leaders you admire?

Here’s one:

One of the best examples of a leader with purpose was the late  David Packard, co-founder of Hewlett-Packard. I met him in early 1969 when he was the new Deputy Secretary of Defense and I was the special assistant to the Secretary of Navy. Packard had taken a leave from HP to serve his country. A big, powerful, yet modest man, he immediately impressed me with his openness, his sincerity, and his commitment to make a difference through his work.

Are you making a difference for others in your sphere of influence?


Today is the day that you’re going to make a change that will transform your life. What change are you going to make?

You have a desire, a burning passion to make a difference to do something positively significant in your life, what is it? What is stopping you from doing that one thing?

When will you start?