“It’s being here now that’s important. There’s no past and there’s no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.”
― George Harrison
In life you have to be “present” to win. It’s like a raffle ticket, you have to be there to collect the prize. It’s the same with our life, we have to be there to win and so often we are somewhere else and we miss the opportunity to win the prize.
For many people their career is the target of most of their energy. Sometimes so much energy is put into the career that there is nothing left for other things in life. Vacations get put on hold because the work load increases so quickly that a vacation only means doing more work when you get back.
Living in a world of distractions means that being present to enjoy the moment or participate more fully in life is often pushed to the side.
What does it take to be present?
1. Know who you are?
2. Know where you are?
3. Know what you are doing?
It looks simple doesn’t it? Do you really know who you are? Many people really don’t know “who” they are. They usually know what they aren’t though. Do you know where you are? If you have a plan you must be somewhere on that path to achieving your life’s goal. Do you know where you are? And, do you know what you are doing? Are you asking for help when you want help. Perhaps you don’t want help until you need it and if you wait that long you might be in place you really don’t want to be. Ask for help and seek it before you need it.
Go out and be present in all that you do.
Where are you right now? Are you focusing in on what is on the horizon in the next few days or weeks or are you focused on the past and what has happened. Being present means focusing in on this moment and this moment alone.
Our culture is focused on “winning” and excelling in life and business and with such a high focus on getting results (or success) we often miss present. As a result many people are missing out on life and over time they become disenchanted with their life.
Being present is becoming a topic of greater and greater interest and has been written about by Peter Senge and most notably Mihaly Csikszentamihalyi. With our days being compressed by “duty” we rarely have time to reflect on the present moment and what is happening is people are feeling like their is something missing. That missing something starts to grow and grow and there is this moment that causes people to wonder life is all about.
Most people at some point in their life have found a moment in which they were fully present and it was magic. Mihaly writes, “Yet we all have experienced times when, instead of being buffeted by anonymous forces, we do feel in control of our actions, maters of our own fate. On the rare occasions that it happens, we feel a sense of exhilaration, a deep sense of enjoyment that is long cherished and that becomes a landmark in memory for what life should be like.”
It is those moments of exhilaration that people are seeking but are finding that daily living is sucking the life out of them and generating more stress than joy in their lives. The question that lingers in many people’s minds is “how do I start feeling more joy in my life?”
Part of the answer is taking time out of the everyday busyness to stop and really doing something that tests your limits. Busyness and routine work is draining but something that challenges ever fiber of your soul is what people describe as an optimal experience and this is what causes people to feel most alive.
What challenges the mind and body creates this sense of flow or being in the moment. The moment is a point in time where the conscious mind reflects on the challenge and has the experience of control, victory and freedom from the threat of chaos. That moment is experiential and joyous and fleeting. It is a moment that isn’t easily regained or easy to live over again through a similar experience. It requires a new challenge and a new experience and then that moment of reflection.
For example first marathon run by a runner is often the most memorable. Running the same marathon again even a year later has less of an impact than the first one did. A new challenge must be experienced in order to regain that feeling. Yet that experience can be recreated in the mind at any moment by learning how to be present right where you are. The mind has the ability to generate that feeling of presence. What will you do to be present in your life?
Obtaining flow or presence
1. Set goals
2. Become immersed in activity
3. Pay attention to what is happening.
4. Learn to enjoy the present.
Do something important today that will allow you to feel better about you.
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