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a leader is

What is a leader to you?   Just a few ideas.   A leader is a lot of things.  So, what does leadership mean to you?  Are you a leader?   Are you a developing leader?  

 

A leader is

A leader is honest

A leader is transparent

A leader is an encourager

A leader is a visionary

A leader is a follower

A leader is a lamp holder

A leader is a spark

A leader is a learner

A leader is a knowledgeable

A leader is trusted

A leader is genuine

A leader is focused

A leader is a dreamer

A leader is a giver

A leader is a seeker

A leader is a humble

A leader is bold

A leader is believable

A leader is an influencer

A leader is in the turbulence

A leader is persistent

A leader is a listener

A leader is a healer

A leader is a path maker

A leader is willing

A leader is present

A leader is responsible

A leader is

Embrace uncertainty

 

We live in unique times.  We live in a time where uncertainty brushes everyone of us.   We live in a time when many are worrying about tomorrow like we can shift the dunes of time to our favor. 

If we are living a life of hope then we know that whatever tomorrow brings something good can come out of it.   Prepare to live a life of hope by creating a vision of the future that is strong,  vibrant and present.  In this vision of the future what part do you play?   What do you think the outcome could be if you put your energy and talents together and seek the dream?

“Look.  This is your world! You can’t not look.  There is no other world.  This is your world; it is your feast.  You inherited this; you inherited these eyeballs; you inherited the world of color.  Look at the greatness of the whole thing.  Look!  Don’t hesitate – look!  Open your eyes, don’t blink, and look, look – look further.” Chogyam Trungpa

How do you see the world?   What part do you want to play?

relentless focus

Listening is an essential attribute in a client coach relationship.  Each of us carries with us a story, a unique story about the past, present and the future.  Our story is filled with the experiences and events that have shaped our lives. 

For example when we are listening we hear the words (content) and then relate them to our contextual framework (our experience).   As we overlay what we hear with our experience (what is in our memory) we “pop out” of the conversation for a moment and depending on the vividness of the story we may “pop out” of the conversation for a few seconds.   When that happens we have lost connection with the story that is being presented (i.e. we are no longer present). 

Intentional listening takes work and like physical exercise needs to be done often in order to improve.   Listen with intent for thirty seconds each day building towards one minute of focused listening (which means silencing the internal critic in the head).  Process the story and allow the story being told to be the only thing that is being processed.   When there are breaks in concentration quickly return to the full focus of listening.

If the speaker mentions “mountains” our mind will imagine a mountain and in many cases our mind will probe the shape, the orientation, height, cliffs, valleys and other features of that mountain and that takes us away from the story.   Those “pops” out of the listening experience need to be very brief in order to be fully present in the listening process.  

It is not that it is wrong to connect our context with the content of the story because that is how we are able to share experiences even though there are vast differences in the context of the story.   We just need to be careful not to escape into our story when we are listening to the story of another person.

Do you “pop out” of the story or are you disciplined in your listening abilities?

How long can you focus on the story of another person?

What can you do to improve your focus?

Now what if your brain becomes full, what do you do?  [This is where we acknowledge the story, through paraphrasing, echoing, questioning …]

What the tide washed away – footprints

Have you walked on a sandy beach and left your footprints in the sand.   Have you noticed that when you stop and look back at those footprints they have been washed away by the incoming tide?  The wave gently erases our past as you walk on the beach.  Your footprints only last for a short while.

Life is much like your footprints.  While those footprints may be visible for a short time eventually they are washed away.  It is only where you stand that you let your presence be known.  When you step away the footprints will be filled in by the rushing water. 

You need to be present today where you are and you need to make a difference today.  Life isn’t about what you have done it is about what you are doing.

When you watch the tide come in and wash your footprints away do you lament the fact that your presence has been washed out to the sea?   Or do you look forward to the next step you will make.  You will make a new impression on the sand and for a moment that will be your signature.  

“One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.” – Andre Gide

And one does not discover their self without consenting to look beyond the present.