“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” Harold Whitman
One of the phrases I hear quite often is “If I”. If I had more money my life would be better. If I had a better job my life would be better. “If I”. It’s a slow death sentence to an unlived life.
What would happen if you replaced “If I” with “When I”. Not “if I” could do this or that, but rather “When I”. Take control of your life. Instead of living life as if each moment were a mystery start creating a vision statement. Take that vision statement and translate that into a set of goals that extent out 5 to 10 years. Write down the goals in “BIG” letters, yes big letters. Make it visible to you and to others. Let them know you are going to go “BIG” and start living your life as you really want to.
Living BIG doesn’t mean living foolishly it means creating a set of plans that are achievable, doable and lead towards your vision. It means living with constancy of purpose and having the ability to work through the hard times. It means celebrating success along the way even if it is only a small, small step. Moving forward is not always easy so be patient and keep pushing forward. It is those who break through those barriers and hurdle the trials that reach their vision.
When a vision, a compelling vision is reached it doesn’t mean that it is the end. It really is just a new beginning. When the vision is realized a new vision, a new mission is created that will raise you to a new level of living.
How do you start living? (If you need a clue watch the video)
1. Make a commitment to yourself that you will define your purpose.
2. Create that purpose for your life.
– Take a walk and bring with you a pad of paper. Find a place where you can be alone and in the quiet, in the serenity of the moment think about what you really want to do and be. Write down your thoughts and observe trends, patterns and ideas. What is the same about them and what is unique? Star the ones that make your heart beat a bit faster.
– Refine the list, get the key things from your list. Put the “doables” in one column and put the “reach for the stars” in another and put the routine items in a third column.
– What made it into the “reach for the stars column”.?
– Choose the most compelling, most awesome, most powerful ideas and write a goal statement.
– I am going to ________________________ in 5 years.
– Write a story that describes this ultimate dream of yours. What does it really look like to you. What will it take to make it real? What new skills will you need? What risks will you take? What will require change?
– Be clear about what you want. Be crystal clear.
3. Tell others what you are going to do or change. Make it BIG.
4. Make it real (start doing)
5. Give of yourself to others.
When you create your “Start Living Plan” you may notice that you pull back from it believing it isn’t possible or it is foolish to believe in such great things. Work towards the goal, even if it is only for 15 minutes a day. Take a few minutes each day and work on the goal. Turn off the distractions, the TV or whatever pushes you away from the pursuit of the dream. If you want the dream to be realized sooner put more effort into it.
If you aren’t sure which way to go, enlist a coach to work with you. A coach can hold you accountable and keep those commitments in the forefront of your mind. Fighting the battle alone is one of the reasons so many people give up on their dreams before they start. Be one of the ones that makes your dream come real.
“All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.” Brian Tracy