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Finding a purpose …

It seems that many people are caught in a life that seems to have little purpose or direction.   These people want a change, a change of career in most cases so that they can do something that aligns with who they are.   People are tired of doing work that isn’t motivating or engaging or fulfilling and they want to stop living a life that doesn’t have a purpose.

Here’s what some people say, “I need to find some direction on where I should take my career.”

” I have been trying to figure out what I “want to do” with my life. I have tried a few different avenues, but have yet to find something that I truly enjoy and love doing.”

The story of finding something that says “want to” rather than “have to” suggests that many people are seeking a life of meaning versus a life of just doing work to make a living.   People seek coaches to help them find that purpose and then to find the career that works best for they are.

Years ago Rick Warren wrote a book called the “Purpose Driven Life” and addressed the issues of purpose.   What is it that you are the best at so that you can  contribute to  humanity your best?

The idea is of course finding a real purpose using your strengths every day and for many people using their strengths towards a purpose is a goal rather than a daily event.   How are you using your strengths daily?

What would it mean to live a great life?   What would you do to live out your passion?

Larry Smith (an economist) explains why you won’t pursue your greatest self.

People look for life/career coaches to help them unpack their dreams, to pursuit their greatest  strengths, and to start living the life they want to live.     It makes a difference and if you are feeling like you are stuck in the wrong career you may want to consider using a coach.

What are you tired of?

Where are you stuck?

How energetically do you approach your vocation each day?

What barriers stop you from the success you deserve?

What would free you to be the person you were meant to be?

moving on …

“It is for us to pray not for tasks equal to our powers, but for powers equal to our tasks, to go forward with a great desire forever beating at the door of our hearts as we travel toward our distant goal. ”  Helen Keller
What stands in your way of defining the success you desire?  
 
What stops you from moving on?
 
People, many people are stuck somewhere in their life.   Stuck with a job they don’t like.  Stuck in a relationship that isn’t working for them or stuck because they aren’t in a relationship at all.   Stuck because they can’t make enough money to do the things they would like or to make enough to give them a sense of security.  
Then there are others who appear to have it all.   They have the big home, the big paycheck, and the relationship that looks wonderful.   From the outside it looks like their life is a life of dreams and yet when you look inside there is worry, fear and doubt, the inability to move forward.
 
Much of the dissatisfaction in life appears to arise from the fact that there is no defined mission, purpose and vision for life.   For many people happiness was defined in chasing a goal, any goal, in the hope that once that goal was reached life would be “happier”.  
 
For what reason do you do what you do?   What compells you to move forward or not?   
 
Dean Ornish a famous cardiologists wrote, “The real epidemic in our culture  is not only physical heart disease, but also what I call emotional and spiritual heart disease – that is the profound feeling of lonliness in our culture with the breakdown of social structures that used to provide  us with a sense of connection and community.  It is, to me a root of the illness, cynicism, and violence in our society.”  
 
The notion that society is decaying in some measure can be found in the fact that more and more people are dissatisfied with their lives and that they feel like they can’t move on to a better future.   For some, perhaps many, there is this idea that life is a trap and once you get in you can’t get out.    How do you move on?
 

Seeking happiness

“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.”

– Dale Carnegie

For so many happiness comes from external things, like work, financial rewards, status, or power.  What if that isn’t where happiness is found?  Where do you go to find it?   For some people it might mean focusing on destructive vices that medicate the heart.   For others it may be buying things, things that have no long term value but do just enough to fill a void.

Where do you find happiness?

Can you find happiness or do you create happiness?  

Do you think happy thoughts?  

Do you believe in yourself?

Is your day more positive than negative?  

What makes you happy?

Perhaps the words of Dostoevsky might help,
“Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys.  If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it. “

meaning is happiness

The Dalai Lama spoke these words, “I believe the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness.  That is clear.  Whether one believes in religion or not, whether one believes in this religion or that religion, we are all still seeking something better in this life.  So I think the very motion of our lives is towards happiness.”

Is happiness what you seek?

 

In other set of wise words Jacob Needleman wrote, “We are born for meaning, not pleasure, unless it is pleasure that is steeped in meaning.”

Two approaches to life, happiness and meaning.  Can you find happiness in meaning?  I think many, many people are seeking both happiness and meaning.   Finding meaning may result in happiness, what do you think?

If you are seeking happiness and found it elusive what were you seeking?