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White knuckled experience


Sometimes we go through life hanging on the proverbial steering wheel so tightly that our knuckles turn white. We live such frenetic lives that all we can do is hang on and hope that we survive the day. It seems as if each day that passes increases in intensity demanding more from us and in some cases more than we can give.

In the assessment that comes at the end of the day we realize we haven’t done what we set out to do. Thoughts of a diminished self-worth race towards us. “I didn’t do enough” … those feelings repeated day after day weigh in on us and become burdensome. Each day a bit of burden falls on your shoulders and a bit the next and the next and the next and the weight of those burdens causes to grip a bit harder on that steering wheel of life – a white knuckled experience which can lead to a life that is not satisfying.

What part of your life demands more than you can give? How are you doing a reducing that burden you are feeling on your shoulders? What do you want to remove from your life that you haven’t removed yet?

“We must learn to let go as easily as we grasp or we will find our hands full and our minds empty.” Leo Buscaglia The way of the bull


“No man knows himself or can describe himself with fidelity. But he can reveal himself.”

Louis Fischer

“1. That the good of the individual is contained in the good of all.
2. That a lawyer’s work has the same value as the barber’s, inasmuch as all have the same right of earning their livelihoods from their work.
3. That a life of labor-the life of the tiller of the soil and the handicraftsman – is the life worth living.” Gandhi, from “The Essential Gandhi” (p. 60).

Two quotes that express a revelation of self. We don’t know self but we can reveal self through our philosophies, our actions and our words. It is like we are an artist. We can cover the canvas with paint as an expression of the interior of our self. What color are we? What color naturally emanates from our words and our life? What painting is on the inside waiting to get out?

Gandhi speaks of equality. Do you think of yourself as equal to another? In this world there is a premium paid to some and little to another and yet the worth of each is the same. Far more often than not identity is associated with monetary worth. What does that do personal self-worth? How does that translate into personal success? How does that translate into doing well?

The yardstick by which we measure ourself is no shorter or longer than the yardstick by which others measure themselves. What is true about that statement? What is troubling about that statement?

Francis Fukuyama writes, “What the demand for equality of recognition implies is that when we strip all of a person’s contingent and accidental characteristics away, there remains some essential human quality underneath that is worth of a certain minimal level of respect …” from Our Posthuman future.

What question lingers in your mind?