Why does self-help fail so often? Many people have tried the self-help route. Perhaps they picked up a couple of books guaranteed to change their lives in four easy steps. They try the steps and for a while, a short while things seem to improve and as things improve the energy to keep doing what is working fades and before long you are right back to where you started. Self-help lacks permanence. You will see it in the diets people go on – they hit their goal and then revert back to their old selves.
The brain rules and until the brain is reprogrammed it will continue to resist change. Temptation will grow stronger and stronger until in a flash of “only once” thinking all the discipline will dance down the street.
There a ways others can reprogram your brain. One way is someone will tell you, you’re not capable of doing something. That generally collapses dreams into a pile of rubble. No amount of encouraging will reverse that one voice that said, “You are never going to be good doing that.”, and of course there doesn’t need to be any truth in the statement. For some reason our ego believes the negative message and resists the positive message.
Now, imagine what it would be like to be fully able to live the life you are capable of.
Try not to imagine a pink elephant. Now try to get that image out of your mind. What is happening? A “not” thought sticks.
Do we become the words or stories we tell ourselves?