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a summer challenge

“Tell me what you pay attention to and I will tell you who you are.”
José Ortega y Gasset

Stress.  It is an issue.

Stress is a result of a conflict with your values.   When you live a life that is inconsistent with what you value your emotional triggers are stirred.  At some point some issues presses you just hard enough.  You’ve had enough.

What do you value?

What are your values?

How would you write your value statements?

Are you honoring your values?   If not, why not?

When you experience more of what you want out of life then you’re likely living in a way that is consistent with what you value.   If there is something you value highly and you’re unable to satisfy that value then life isn’t going to be as good as you’d like it to be.

What is your level of stress?

What are you doing about it?

Master Your Stress

overtaken by stress

“One channel is the Stress Channel and the other is the Peace Channel. We really do have a choice about what we listen to. The Peace Channel can only be heard when we are present in the moment, when we are in the now. To tune in to the Peace Channel, all we have to do is beexperience,notice, and naturally respond to what is arising in the moment. To tune into the Stress Channel, we just have to start believing our thoughts again. […] Eliminating stress is just a matter of tuning out the negative and tuning in the positive and just being, experiencing, and dancing to that music instead of the mind’s chatter.”
― Gina Lake

The tension built and grew until the language went foul.   I was listening to a person unload his stress through the use of language that wasn’t beneficial to his cause.   It was just more frustration piled upon frustration and the stress overwhelmed his ability to control his emotions and language.   The storm started small and just grew and grew and the more he talked the louder and more angry he became.   His anger didn’t solve the problem.

Anger is an outlet for stress.   It is a way of releasing the energy produced by the hormones that are leaking into the body.   In most places the sudden eruption of anger is not welcome or seen as a positive event.   This person is going to be looking for a job and his past haunts him.   Nightmares wreck his sleep, and tide of anger swells as he confronts images of a war he participated in.   The images won’t leave him alone.  What does stress really cost?

Others are swimming in a sea of work, unrelenting tides of email, and urgent issues build into a wave of stress reducing confidence, results and energy.  Imagine trying to go to sleep when thoughts of unfinished business race through the mind begging for some kind of answer.   Where is the joy in that kind of work?

What is your stress level?   What are you doing about it?

Your work or events in your life come to you four different ways

1. Urgent and important (get it done now or else)

2. Important but non urgent (this is the sweet spot )

3.  Urgent and unimportant (much of the email you get)

4. Unimportant and not urgent (maybe TV)

What is eating at you?   What is stopping you from getting what you want out of life?

To learn more about how stress impacts life, take a look at this video clip.

stress got you down …

Stress costs!   Stress leads to premature death and may contribute to the $200-300 billion dollars of medication that is taken for treating depression and other stress related disease.  

As our lives get more complicated and we face a increasingly unsure world stress increases.   While our ancestors that lived thousands of years ago reacted to stress by fighting or running many of the stresses of a modern society are not able to be managed by fight or flight.    The stress hormones that are released into the body are real and they are designed to create a temporary burst of action.   Those stress hormones left in the body without some type of release start attacking the body in negative ways.  

Everyday life produces stress and while stress is often a positive motivator too much stress starts creates anxiety and depression.   Here are some stress factors that show up in life:

  • Unsatisfying work, bad managers, unreasonable expectations at work.
  • Change of job (layoffs, being fired, or just getting a new job)
  • Challenging relationships
  • Lack of a significant relationship  (loneliness)
  • Little or no support
  • Finances  (low paying job, more bills than income)
  • Having to move  (relocation)
  • Health problems   (that inhibit beneficial exercise)
  • Abusive relationships
  • a life that lacks balance/optimization

The body may be responding to high levels of stress though increased headaches, digestive problems, sleep problems and others.   Without a planned routine to manage stress the stress hormones create a more toxic environment for the body to deal with.   A stressed immune system has the potential to increase susceptibility to illnesses.

Under stress people may start to experience an increase in stress related problems such as:

  • Physical issues:    Headaches, backache, fatigue, stomach cramps, insomnia
  • Thinking problems : Decreased ability to concentrate, forgetfulness, worry, lack of detail, helplessness, exaggeration
  • Behavioral change: Increased anger, anxiety, depression, loss of self-esteem, guilt, crying, lack of motivation

Many people turn to a variety of medicines to treat the symptoms of stress from sleeping pills to stronger medications.   Those medications don’t address the real causes of stress.   To reduce stress will take more than finding a medication that seems to work.  

Stress reduction begins when you can start processing the stress issues themselves.   For some people that may mean working with a coach or a counselor to work on strategies that actually reduce stress.  

Steps to reduce stress (a starting point)

  1. Eating properly (balanced meals, lower amounts of sugar and carbohydrates)
  2. Right amount of sleep   7-9 hours of restful sleep
  3. Enough exercise – reduce the hormone build up through exercise.
  4. Have a support group or partner to talk to.
  5. Take time to appreciate beauty.


If small changes in habits don’t produce the results that are desired then seek additional assistance through a coach or even therapy.   A coach can work with you to redesign aspects of your life that will reduce stress and increase a sense of well-being.

It takes time to change habits and behaviors so as part of any effort to reduce stress realize that it does take time and work to lower stress in your life.

“How we perceive a situation and how we react to it is the basis of our stress. If you focus on the negative in any situation, you can expect high stress levels. However, if you try and see the good in the situation, your stress levels will greatly diminish.”  Catherine Pulsifer