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being stuck right where I am and liking it

“We are set in our ways, bound by our perspectives and stuck in our thinking.” ― Joel Osteen

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Sometimes people seem to be stuck in the past.  I’ve heard people talk about how they want to change up until the moment they have to do something to create a change in their life.  They are stuck right where they are, bad job, bad relationships, bad finances, bad friends, and just about everything is bad from their point of view and they only want to tell people how bad things are.

Stuck!  Stuck right where they are in misery.   They say they want to make a change and can tell you everything that they want to change, or maybe it is that they really want the world around them to change to meet their view of the world.   Imagine that you could get a better job just by complaining about the one you have right now.  Imagine a marriage being fixed by just complaining about it.  Imagine living in abundance just by complaining about it.   For some people that is what they want, complaints that turn into results.    It doesn’t work that way.

Being stuck can be comfortable when the alternative means making a change.   Change requires facing a fear, the fear of something that could go wrong.  Our brains are tuned so strongly to listen to fear that it drowns out the power of a great idea.  “What if I fail?” rather than “When I succeed”.

When we experience failure we have to plow through the whole grief cycle.

1. Denial – this possibly can’t be.
2. Anger – who’s fault is this anyway, certainly can’t be my fault.
3. Bargaining – there must be some mistake here.
4.  Sadness – I’m not sure I want to do anything
5. Acceptance  – Maybe there is an alternative.

How many people want to experience going through the grief process?  It might be that those who are resilient and realize that temporary setbacks are just that temporary, they are learning experiences rather than a statement that says, “I’m not good enough.”

So, what do you do?  What does it take to push through the barriers of fear?  Look for the positive aspects of change rather than being held back by the fear of change.  How fast you progress through the grief cycle will have some impact on your level of happiness.

Do you want to stay stuck or move forward?

Free yourself

dsc00386Stuck in a down time in your life?

 

Normal Vincent Peale has these suggestions to keep yourself positive even when things look down.

 

1.       Believe in your potential

2.      Nothing is impossible

3.      Break the limitation barrier

Become all that you were meant to be.  It is easier to create excuses or play the victim when things are going in the wrong direction.  Instead of having negative thoughts replace them with positive thought.   Think about the best things that have happened in your life, dwell on those things.

Have you created artificial limits for yourself?  Have you ever said, “I can’t do this, I’m not good enough, or fast enough, or smart enough, or good looking enough”, to do this or that?  Who said that?   Was it you?   Was it someone who long, long ago planted a seed in your mind that suggested that you weren’t good enough and you believed it?   Then from there that belief stuck with you and every time something went wrong you replayed the script “I’m not good enough”.   If you could believe that script it is possible to believe in a new script – play this thought in your mind “I am good enough and I will put my mind, body and soul into it”.    Play that script over and over and over again until it is stuck permanently in memory.   We are what we believe we are.

Create higher goals.  It is easy to sit back and watch someone else tackle the hard things.  Exercise for many is one of those “hard” things to do day after day, week after week, month after month and year after year.   It is easy to get out of exercise and difficult to stay in the flow of daily exercise.   Set a higher goal, reach further, and challenge yourself to something bigger.   Add one extra step to each day and that will be one step further than you were a day ago.   Think on bigger thought and write it down – make the dream a bit bigger and then develop a plan to make that goal come true.   It all starts with you.