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“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.”
― Marvin J. Ashton


The door is closing on 2012 and opening for 2013 and it’s time to say bye.   Make  this next year your Best Year Ever (bye).   Take the time to set some meaningful goals for “you”, and not just set them out there on a table to shine in the light but do something with the goals.    Don’t let your dreams wither on the vine of life, go out and make life happen for you.   It is easy to get caught up in the web of daily life and forget about the things that will add meaning and vitality to your life, so make a choice to DO rather than watch things go by.

Say bye to complacency.

Say bye to laziness.

Say bye to checking-out.

Say bye to watching TV.

Say bye to gossip.

Say bye to lethargy.

Say hello to health.

Say hello to dreams.

Say hello to action.

Say hello to inspiration.

Say hello to creativity.

Say hello to goals.

Make this your B.Y.E … Best Year Ever.   It is what you want isn’t it?

Take a look at this short video clip…it will tell you how to have your best year ever.


If It’s Not a 10x Improvement, Is It Really Worth Doing?  Marc Andreessen

10X … something to consider.   What are you doing that is 10X better at?   Are you 10X better in your job?   Are you 10X better in  your relationships?  Are you 10X better of a person?   What in your life is 10X better than it was before?

 Why 10X?

10X is ten times better.   Take a goal that you have and make it bigger and better.   Most people think if they just double their performance it will be good enough.   Not any more.   Doubling your effort or even your results won’t lead to a breakthrough in thinking and doing.   It takes a 10X improvement to make the breakthroughs to get out of the box.

If you set a goal that is 10X bigger than your original goal you’ll have a better chance of achieving a real result.   Losing weight, go bigger than your goal.  Your goal to lose a couple of pounds a month might be good but it will also be easy to revert back to the old ways.    If you had to go 10X what would you really need to change?

Think about your job or your career.   What would make it 10X better than it is today?   It would take something pretty radical and it wouldn’t just be something small, it would have to be a big change.   Are you in the right career?   Are you doing what you are really passionate about?

Your finances, where are they today?   Where do you want them to be?   Go for a 10X goal.   What would have to change or be different to reach that goal.

In the world of personal development and personal improvement on person is doing just that, turning his world into 10X.   Brendon Bruchard is leading a charge to change the way people think about doing things.   10X, think about it.  Where could you change something by creating a goal that is 10X what you originally thought of?   What can you do 10X better?

Take a look at Brendon’s passion. 10X is what he is giving.

What are you giving 10X to?

No matter where you are today, think about something you will make 10X better this year. Set a goal and make it 10X bigger. Push the limits of your imagination, your skills and your results. Go beyond what you think possible.

Now take it 10X.

Here’s another perspective. 10X it.

It doesn’t matter what you are doing, there is a seismic shift in thinking that is happening all around you and there is going to be a seismic shift in how the world will operate. Are you going to be ready?

be confident

“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” Marie Curie

What is confidence?
Confidence is the ability to believe in our strengths and talents.   That’s basically all there is to it.   The ability to believe in yourself as you are.   Often people believe that they should be like someone else, maybe the executive, or the person “who has it all together” or “the rich one”, or “the famous one”, or anyone but me.  
Confidence what is it?   What are you confident about?   Some poeple are confident that bad things will happen to them and because that is what they expect it happens.   Maybe you know some people like that.  People who create problems for themselves.
What does it take to get confidence?   It takes a desire to change.   It takes a desire to start to believe in the gifts and talents you already have.  
Syndey Harris writes, “Ninety percent of the world’s woe comes from people not knowing themselves, their abilities, their frailities, and even their real virtues.   Most of us go almost all the way through life as complete strangers to ourselves.”
What would happen if you knew yourself, not as you think you are but as you really are?  
Here’s a quick quiz you can take.  
How would you rate your success?  0 = Very Low,  10  = Very high
How would you rate your optimism?   0 = Very Low, 10  = Very high
How would you rate your purpose?   0 = Very Low, 10 = Very high
How would you rate your gratefulness?  0 = Very Low , 10 = Very high
How would you rate your health?  0 = Very Low , 10 = Very high
Now replace, “How would your rate your …”, with “I am”.
And read it out loud,  what did you feel or think?
What would you like to think?
What would it be like for you to be confident in you?
What would it take to make the changes you really desire?

little by little

Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.  ~Robert Brault

The little things add up to be a big thing.   Just think about all the learning you did, little by little, day by day until you became an expert in one thing.   Living in a world where things change constantly the idea that what you learned years ago is enough has long passed being true.  Today, learning has to be constant.    Learn a little each day.   Read for an hour, listen to audio books, and learn something new daily.

The key to success is to do little things each day – little by little – it adds up to something, something you can build a future upon.

What are you reading?

What are you learning?

How are you growing?

How are you becoming better in all aspects of your life?

Invest in yourself.  The top achievers invest 10% of their income in personal growth.   They desire to get better every day in every way.    Their personal success is based on learning more and more until you reach personal mastery and even then there is more to learn.

Think about the biggest success stories, people who have achieved great personal success, what was it that they did to get there?   They developed their strengths, increased their knowledge and invested in themselves.

How much are you investing in yourself?   Are you investing 10% per year in your personal growth?

Little by little that is what it takes to become a success and stay a success.

live energetically

Where is your energy?

If your energy is catabolic (lethargy, defiance) then a little bit of that energy is very powerfully negative.  In other words a little bit of those types of energy robs you of the energy you need to be innovative, creative, …

Small amounts of negative energy drains you of the energy you need to really to be as successful as you’d like to be.   Negative energy slows you down – you worry, you fret, you get anxious, you doubt your abilities, you think rather than act, you can’t decide, you wallow and procrastinate.    Knowing what level of negative energy you have can be the knowledge that you have been looking for, the knowledge that will set you free.

“Every human has four endowments- self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change.”

Stephen R. Covey

It is the year 2014 and you’ve suddenly realized that your life isn’t exactly what you wanted it to be.   The world has changed again and you weren’t ready again.   The peaks and valleys of the world’s economic engine keeps shifting and leaving you feeling totally unsure of what to do next.

The decisions you make today will impact how you live in 2014.  Are you preparing for the next wave of change today?   Are you seeking the way to tomorrow?

What things in your life today are not as you’d like them to be?   Which of those things is the most important to address?   It is important to identify the area that you feel has the greatest potential to increase your happiness, self-worth, self-esteem and value.   What one area in your life would you like to see positive change?

What will you do to make that area better?

Jeffrey Gitomer has a couple of hints on what it takes to become better.

  1. Define your commitment to yourself
  2. Define your commitment to others

What are you going to do to better yourself?

What are you going to do to better others?

In other words work on yourself so that you have the best capabilities you can possibly have and keep working towards mastery of the topic you choose to have the best capabilities in.    Then help others become better, help others have a better day, a better career, a better life, a better experience and greater happiness.

You can start today.  Take a look at this brief video clip on attitude.

And have a great day!


“Finish every day and be done with it.  You have done what you could.  Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can.  Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.  This day is all that is good and fair.  It is too dear, with its hopes and invitations, to waste a moment on the yesterdays.” 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Do your best all of the time.   Forget the failures and create new successes.  Remember the lessons and seek greater significance.

What successes have you had lately?

Finding meaning in joy and suffering

I don’t know how many people find meaning in suffering but it might just be that in suffering you discover more about yourself than you do when you are in a state of joy.   The questions are asked more often in suffering.  Questions of why – why me – why?  Perhaps that is the wrong question to ask.  When there is suffering the goal is to make it go away and that it does go away and in most cases it will.

When we experience joy more often than not we know it will subside overtime and go away.   It is unlikely that the question is asked how can I keep joy going when we are in a state of joy.   It seems as if we accept joy for what it is when it is present.

Business leaders try to examine the success of others so that they can apply that knowledge to their line of work in order to increase their chance of success or to increase their current success.  Now what would happen if individuals focused on improving their lives, their joy and their success, what do you think would happen?

Constant incremental improvement – constantly improve the joy in your life by focusing on what makes you filled with joy.

Try it!   Spend a few minutes each day and write down the things that were good – joyful.   Even if it is just one thing write it down and the next day try to find two things that were joyful.  You may have to work on making joy enter your life – try it!

In suffering try to find joy and it may mean helping someone else find joy.


“Indecision is the seedling of fear”  Napolean Hill

Proper analysis before making a decision is wise.  Procrastinating over making a decision is paralysis.   Paralysis leads to doubt which steps over the edge into fear.  Reverse the process and extinguish doubt, free yourself of paralysis and make the decision a wise one.

There are six fears which cross our paths at one time or another.

1.   Poverty

2.   Criticism

3.   Failing health

4.   Relationships that quit working

5.   Aging

6.   Death

How do you conquer any item on that list?   What steps can you take to dissolve the fear component?  

What do you fear?   List them out?   Are they worries about what is to come or what has happened in the past?

coaching is for …. most people

Who is coaching for?

It is for people who want to become better at who they are on an accelerated track.  It is not unusual for people who have a coach to have a quantum leap in personal happiness.  This happiness may be driven by achieving more significance in their lives whether it is at home, at work or in the community.

In general most well adjusted people will benefit from having a coach.  There are some though that a coach should not apply their method of Socratic inquiry.  There are some who would benefit from therapy.  Sometimes the trials of life create disappointment and perhaps even period of depression which is beyond the skills, training and expertise of a coach.  There are times when a coach should recommend that a client seek out professional treatment.

For many people the results of their experiences will be in many respects mostly positive.  Life will be good, not great but good.   For a few very motivated people they might even rise to the level that someone who is coached would attain but that would be a rare occurrence.

Often we don’t know what would generate a quantum leap in personal performance.  We might be missing the questions, the discipline or the accountability to go it alone and to find what truly makes us happy.

Looking at the chart we can see time moving along the horizontal axis and as we reach the zenith of our careers, family or community life we should be at some elevation that is higher than it was when we first embarked on our journeys.   As our story unfolds we should see things steadily improve as we gain in wisdom in knowledge.  

There are some factors that interrupt our journeys and those could be illness, job loss, family crisis or other significant life events that cause our path to deviate from its planned destination.  There are those who can help people navigate the crisis which helps people with significant interruptions in their journey to reengage with life.  

If there is a desire to fully experience life then think about getting a coach to help you realize your goals.

Karen Lamb said, “A year from now you may wish you had started today.”