Why does self-help fail so often? Many people have tried the self-help route. Perhaps they picked up a couple of books guaranteed to change their lives in four easy steps. They try the steps and for a while, a short while things seem to improve and as things improve the energy to keep doing what is working fades and before long you are right back to where you started. Self-help lacks permanence. You will see it in the diets people go on – they hit their goal and then revert back to their old selves.
The brain rules and until the brain is reprogrammed it will continue to resist change. Temptation will grow stronger and stronger until in a flash of “only once” thinking all the discipline will dance down the street.
There a ways others can reprogram your brain. One way is someone will tell you, you’re not capable of doing something. That generally collapses dreams into a pile of rubble. No amount of encouraging will reverse that one voice that said, “You are never going to be good doing that.”, and of course there doesn’t need to be any truth in the statement. For some reason our ego believes the negative message and resists the positive message.
Now, imagine what it would be like to be fully able to live the life you are capable of.
Try not to imagine a pink elephant. Now try to get that image out of your mind. What is happening? A “not” thought sticks.
Do we become the words or stories we tell ourselves?
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“We are like sculptors, constantly carving out of others the image we long for, need, love or desire, often against reality, against their benefit, and always, in the end, a disappointment, because it does not fit them.” Anais Nin
A photograph like a sculpture is a snapshot in time. Some people are just like that fixed in time unwilling to change or to adapt to become who they really are. Others copy an image in an effort to be more like that image refusing their own image. The beginning of freedom is recognizing that the picture is dynamic and that it must change.
Change begins with a thought, the thought that change must begin. The direction of change is in alignment with values, beliefs, strengths, abilities, desires, passions, and dreams which need to be cultivated and developed.
What change are you holding back on that will bring about freedom?
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What we ponder and what we think about sets the course of our
life. Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it
all. Any day we wish, we can open the book that will open our
mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish, we can start a new
activity. Any day we wish, we can start the process of life
change. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month,
or next year.” Jim Rohn
What are your thoughts? Can we change the course of our life, of our week, of our day, we can, we can and we can.
“Man is made or unmade by himself. In the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself. He also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace.” James Allen
To keep us from creating weapons of destruction, which we can do in our own thoughts we need to work with someone else, a partner to help us weave the tapestry that will become our mansion of joy and peace.
Alone we are left to our own devices – work with others and break free of doing it your own way.