“Humans are fragile. Mistakes are guaranteed. Our concentration is always shifting. There’s no reason, except that this is the natural constitution of the mind.” Sean Foley (Tiger Woods golf coach)
The difference between winning and losing is small. The physical skills to master the game are well practiced, the data is analyzed, the numbers studied and it turns out the key factor may be the psychological attitude. The mind. The skills may be tweaked to maximize every opportunity but the mind can be the adversary that can’t be conquered by numbers alone.
Small changes in brain patterns can mean the difference between achieving your goal or not. Think about your attitude when you are trying to do something important. What do you notice about your own internal self-talk? Do you have a sense of excitement or a sense of dread?
Your mental framework does matter. It matters everyday. How you start your day and how you finish your day matters. If you start your day with complaints, irritations (such as slow traffic), or anxiety you’ll find that your timing if off, your words aren’t clear, your patience low and your tension high.
Find a way to shift the negative postures to positive ones. Relax, reframe and re-engage in the world. You’ll find that with a more positive outlook that pains will go away, tension will fade, your smile will be genuine, your word kinder and supportive and your results will be larger.
The subtle difference is in how you think and what you think. A small change in your psychology can make the difference in the day. Find time to be grateful in the midst of disappointment. Find the time to say “Thank-you”. Find the time to smile. Find the time to say a kind word. As you shift your attitude towards the positive so will your day shift to the positive.
Shift your brain patterns so that you are thinking and doing more positive things. Think about the possibilities. Think about the opportunities. Think about making your life better.
Notice what the subtle difference can do for you here:
“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”
― Ashley Smith
The hottest topic in the news these days is the moral failure of Tiger Woods. A public icon/hero/leader that exhibited a moral collapse is producing a media feeding frenzy of great intensity. Never will the image and character of Tiger Woods be able to stand untarnished again at least in the public eye.
This isn’t the first time a leader that lived larger than life in the public arena has failed. In Biblical times David and Bathsheba where the headline story. In more recent times, Bill Clinton, Mark Sanford the governor of South Carolina, Ted Haggard and the list goes on.
Leaders and public icons reach a point where their influence and power leads them to a place of intense personal loneliness. There is a huge gaping hole in their heart that money, power, or fame can’t fill. The gap becomes an integrity gap, the difference between what they wish to be and what they really are.
When the luster of leader is tarnished it takes a great deal of humility, forgiveness and resilience to begin the process of restoration. Even with new habits, new commitment and a new character, people will generally revert back to an incident in the past as the definition of truth for that individual.
Once the flaw is exposed it remains a stain on the character of an individual for life. A positive character attribute that was dominantly present in the past that loses purity in the present is perceived to be lost value. That is the past for positive attributes does not define the future, but a negative attribute does become part of the future. In the minds of people, changing a negative value seems impossible, trust doesn’t come easily. Keeping a positive value seems impossible, trust is lost easily.
Trust and integrity become the brand of a leader. Celebrity branding, whether in sports, government, entertainment or other profession is important to those businesses that use that branding to promote their products as trustworthy is subject to the moral condition of man, which isn’t perfect.
How does a leader in any walk of life regain their integrity, character and value if they have compromised their values?
Everyone has talents and skills that they can use. Sometimes those skills have been identified and at other times they have not been identified. Imagine having a great skill that has never been tapped or understood, wouldn’t that be a waste?
Talent can be our jumping off point to success if we know how to use our talents. Talent by itself won’t make anyone successful but it can be a catalyst towards success.
“Have success and there will be fools to say that you have talent”, wrote the French Poet Edouard Pailleron. Some people have success by just working harder than anyone else around them. There are people who know they don’t have the great skills of a Tiger Woods, Lance Armstrong or some other successful athlete, but they have something else, passion, commitment, desire and persistence. It’s not that great athletes don’t have both skill and passion it is that skill alone won’t necessarily allow one to rise to the top.
John Maxwell illustrated some interesting bits of knowledge about talent:
· More than 50% of all CEO’s of Fortune 500 companies had a C or C- in college
· Sixty-five percent of all US Senators came from the bottom half or their school classes.
Some would say that those statistics are visible with the business failures that we have seen. And with 65% of all Senators coming from the bottom half of their schools explains a lot as well.
Are you using your talents, or are you wishing you could do something you aren’t good at instead?
It is far better to develop strength than it is to develop something you are not very good at (especially if you’ve been trying for a long period of time and you’re still not good at it). Identify the strength and make it stronger. Identify the weakness and manage around it.
Make your talents work for you. Be passionate, take a stand, use your talent, use your gifts and consistently develop your strengths – practice building your strength.