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life as a car wreck

“All of us are in the manufacturing industry – manufacturing either our own happiness or unhappiness.”
― Ogwo David Emenike

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Does your life feel like it is spinning out of control?   Does it seem more like a demolition derby than the life you were hoping to live?    Does it feel like others are charging into you to stop all movement in your life?

For many people life is out of control.   Time is going by to swiftly.   The sound of disappointment only screams louder.   The cries,”When will things get better?”, echo in your mind.    Other people tug at your for attention.  Friends and family aren’t doing things that please you and you just want them to stop ruining your life.

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The carousel spins out of control and all you can do is hold on tighter and think this isn’t how life should be.   When things appear to be out of control or before they get that far, stop and ask yourself “What is it that you really want?”   Take some time to evaluate what it is that you really want.   Many people are getting off the carousel and designing a lifestyle that works for them.  That may mean giving up some of the material items in their life and living in a simpler way.  High paying jobs often come with a lot of stress.   Living from paycheck to paycheck often creates a lot of stress.  In the end it boils down to the choices that are being made.   What choices are you making and are they leading you to the life you want to live?

do you know who you are?

“Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves.
But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune. ”

 C.G. Jung

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Do you know who you are?   Not who you think you should be but who you really are?   It is easy to cover up the true you in exchange for the perceived you, the you, you’d like to be.   Being authentic will allow you to express yourself fully and comfortably.

When people have been asked “have you ever lied?” and they say no, they are are probably not telling the truth then.   Most people live behind a mask,  a mask that is used to cover up and flaws or weaknesses they have.   It could be  character flaw, or an integrity flaw, or some other issue they don’t want others to see.    Anyone who has said, “I am not good enough” in some aspect of their life to themselves has probably not told anyone else that story.   That is their belief and it is a belief they don’t want to have.    What would happen if you told everyone “I am not good enough.”, what would happen?

How well do you know yourself?  How well do you want to know yourself?

Fill out the following assessment.    Score yourself for each line from 1 to 10 (using the labels below)

Statement as it applies to you. How do you
see yourself most of the time?
Hardly ever Some of the time Most of the time Almost always
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I speak positively about myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I support others and their ideas _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I get results frequently. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am compassionate _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I take responsibility for my actions _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I love myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I love others in my life without conditions _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with who I am _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my finances _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my physical health _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my physical appearance _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my mental health _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am valued as a person by others _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I value myself as a person _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
When I make a mistake I can forgive myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
When others make a mistake I can forgive them. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I don’t hold grudges _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I do my best in everything I do _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I don’t make excuses _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I seek personal growth _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am competent _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am confident _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am strong (physically) _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am intelligent _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am honest with myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am honest with others _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am authentic _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am a person of integrity _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I meet my commitments _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I use my strengths and talents most of the time. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _

When you are done just add up the scores for 1, 2 and 3,4,5 and 6,7,8 and 9, 10.    What was your score?  How many were 1’s or 2’s, or 3,4,5 or 6,7,8 or 9, and 10.

What area’s would you like to change?   Where do you want to improve or did you resist doing the assessment at all?

The first step to change is recognizing the areas that you could change, that could help you be more authentic.   When you are able to live authentically you’ll experience greater joy and happiness in your life.

What do you really want to change?   Start today!