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what successful people do

“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”
― Leonardo da Vinci

 

 

Which one are you?

do you know who you are?

“Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves.
But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune. ”

 C.G. Jung

Circles

Do you know who you are?   Not who you think you should be but who you really are?   It is easy to cover up the true you in exchange for the perceived you, the you, you’d like to be.   Being authentic will allow you to express yourself fully and comfortably.

When people have been asked “have you ever lied?” and they say no, they are are probably not telling the truth then.   Most people live behind a mask,  a mask that is used to cover up and flaws or weaknesses they have.   It could be  character flaw, or an integrity flaw, or some other issue they don’t want others to see.    Anyone who has said, “I am not good enough” in some aspect of their life to themselves has probably not told anyone else that story.   That is their belief and it is a belief they don’t want to have.    What would happen if you told everyone “I am not good enough.”, what would happen?

How well do you know yourself?  How well do you want to know yourself?

Fill out the following assessment.    Score yourself for each line from 1 to 10 (using the labels below)

Statement as it applies to you. How do you
see yourself most of the time?
Hardly ever Some of the time Most of the time Almost always
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I speak positively about myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I support others and their ideas _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I get results frequently. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am compassionate _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I take responsibility for my actions _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I love myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I love others in my life without conditions _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with who I am _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my finances _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my physical health _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my physical appearance _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my mental health _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am valued as a person by others _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I value myself as a person _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
When I make a mistake I can forgive myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
When others make a mistake I can forgive them. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I don’t hold grudges _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I do my best in everything I do _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I don’t make excuses _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I seek personal growth _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am competent _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am confident _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am strong (physically) _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am intelligent _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am honest with myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am honest with others _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am authentic _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am a person of integrity _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I meet my commitments _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I use my strengths and talents most of the time. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _

When you are done just add up the scores for 1, 2 and 3,4,5 and 6,7,8 and 9, 10.    What was your score?  How many were 1’s or 2’s, or 3,4,5 or 6,7,8 or 9, and 10.

What area’s would you like to change?   Where do you want to improve or did you resist doing the assessment at all?

The first step to change is recognizing the areas that you could change, that could help you be more authentic.   When you are able to live authentically you’ll experience greater joy and happiness in your life.

What do you really want to change?   Start today!

Alignment

“Your life has an inner purpose and an outer purpose. Inner purpose concerns Being and is primary. Outer purpose concerns doing and it is secondary. Your inner purpose is to awaken. It is as simple as that. You share that purpose with every other person on the planet – because it is the purpose of humanity. Your inner purpose is an essential part of the purpose of the whole, the universe and its emerging intelligence. Your outer purpose can change over time. It varies greatly from person to person. Finding and living in alignment with the inner purpose is the foundation for fulfilling your outer purpose. It is the basis for true success. Without that alignment, you can still achieve certain things through effort, struggle, determination, and sheer hard work or cunning. But there is no joy in such endeavor, and it invariably ends in some form of suffering.”  Eckhart Tolle

As a coach who works a wide variety of people it is important that the client knows “who” they are.   In many cases they have an idea of who they are that has been shaped by external influences and over time their belief about “who” they are is merely a mask of their real self.    People take assessments to help define better who they are (MBTI, DISC, …) and while those assessments provide value they are often reflections of what other people have declared them to be.   Even 360 degree assessment fail to provide the truth about “who” a person really is.  

 

What happens when people don’t know “who” they are is that they fight against themselves in many cases in terms of career choice, conflicts, learning styles, and working with others.   If people knew “who” they were naturally they would experience greater career, relational, and personal success and fulfillment.   The very things people are looking for are obscured by not knowing who they are.

Jim Collins the author of “Good to Great” writes,  “You can’t manufacture passion or “motivate” people to feel passionate. You can only discover what ignites your passion and the passions of those around you.”     Research indicates that only about 28% of people in their work love what they do.    That means that 72% of the workforce is doing work they don’t really like to do.  Companies spend billions of dollars training and trying to get people to fit their roles and can’t.   When people are not in alignment with “who” they are and what they do they will attempt to mold the job to their core values and ultimately the both the employee and organization suffer.  

For organizations getting the right people in the right seat would make a huge contribution to the bottom line and increase employee satisfaction.    Imagine if you knew what your core values were so that you could find a job that aligns with your strengths and abilities.    Taylor Protocols is one such company that knows how to get the right people in the right seat.     Their “Core Value Index” reliably shows what matters most to people and when they know their core values they are able to:

1. Find out what career is a good fit.

2. Find out how to manage conflict.

3. Find out what creates conflict in their life.

4. Find out their best learning style.

5. Find out how they can make their biggest contribution.

When people are in alignment with “who” they are their level of fulfillment increases, their productivity increase and life gets better.   That is what many people want, a better life and yet they struggle with daily fighting against “who” they truly are.    The CVI is something that can be purchased and the results can be used to fashion a purpose filled life.   It is worth the few dollars to find out what really works in your life.   It is far cheaper than therapy or counseling that often takes place after one has fought against their natural values for years.

Do you know “who” you are?    Are you living with your “values” or against them?

Here’s a short clip about the value of the CVI.