Why does self-help fail so often? Many people have tried the self-help route. Perhaps they picked up a couple of books guaranteed to change their lives in four easy steps. They try the steps and for a while, a short while things seem to improve and as things improve the energy to keep doing what is working fades and before long you are right back to where you started. Self-help lacks permanence. You will see it in the diets people go on – they hit their goal and then revert back to their old selves.
The brain rules and until the brain is reprogrammed it will continue to resist change. Temptation will grow stronger and stronger until in a flash of “only once” thinking all the discipline will dance down the street.
There a ways others can reprogram your brain. One way is someone will tell you, you’re not capable of doing something. That generally collapses dreams into a pile of rubble. No amount of encouraging will reverse that one voice that said, “You are never going to be good doing that.”, and of course there doesn’t need to be any truth in the statement. For some reason our ego believes the negative message and resists the positive message.
Now, imagine what it would be like to be fully able to live the life you are capable of.
Try not to imagine a pink elephant. Now try to get that image out of your mind. What is happening? A “not” thought sticks.
Do we become the words or stories we tell ourselves?
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How much does a word weigh? It depends on what that word is. Some words have a deep impact to one person while having no force at all on another. The words we use carry a significant weight at times and at times we use words with all the force of a heavy hammer.
Words shift our consciousness but their sheer mass or if not by mass then velocity. Some words are kind and uplifting and others are a weight on our soul.
What words weigh most to you? Is it how they are used and the context they are used in that matter most?
What does it take to manage the impact of a word, after all it is the weight we give the word that gives it impact.
What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists and it becomes available only when a man is in that state of mind in which he knows exactly what he wants and is fully determined not to quit until he finds it.
Alexander Graham Bell
There is a real magic in enthusiasm. It spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment.
Norman Vincent Peale
Happiness is not in our circumstances but in ourselves. It is not something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are.
John B. Sheerin
Do your words shape the world or does the world shape your words?
Pause and think about that last sentence. What does it mean to you? Which side of the phrase does your life spend most of its time?
Have you paused … have you contemplated the meaning of that sentence above?
If our words shape the world we can create, we have the ability to change all that is around us, we have the words.
If the world shapes our words then we can become victims of all that there is.
Shape your world with your words.
Gandhi put the thought to words in this way, “You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
It’s a choice – which choice will you make?
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