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Fear

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
Frank Herbert, Dune

What would you be doing right now if fear didn’t have its way with you?   That is right, fear is stopping you from living fully.   It is holding you back.  It is making you nervous and it is changing the rhythm of your self-talk.   What is it saying right now?   Is it saying “I can do anything I want to” or is it saying “I would do if it if I wanted to” or is it saying “I could do it but I don’t feel like it.”    What messages are you listening to, what is the talk of your unconscious mind saying right now?   It may not be saying anything, it may just be a feeling, a nervous feeling, a queasy feeling, an uncertain feeling, a feeling that says back away or a feeling that says quit now.   What is it you are feeling right now?   How does the word fear feel right now?

Some people fear changing a job that they absolutely know isn’t working for them.   They keep the job just to have a job and in today’s uncertain economy that is holding back people from doing what they love to do.

Fear rips through someone who finds out that they have a severe illness.  What is next?  What will happen to me?   The mind fixates on the worst outcome possible rather than focusing on what the best outcome could be.

What are you fearful about?

Write down those things now.

I am fearful about __________________________________________

I am fearful about __________________________________________

I am fearful about __________________________________________

Now that you have the idea, write down the things that you are fearful about.  Identify those fears.

What is a fear?  What is the rational thought behind the fear?

Examine the fear and look at it from 360 degrees.   Look all around the fear and write down what is true about the fear.   What is really true, not what you think is true.

Let’s say you are looking for a new job.  You’ve written your resume and sent it out to over 200 organizations and not one has written or called you for an interview.   Maybe you are thinking you are not good enough to be hired.  You feel rejected and then you feel that without a job then you won’t be able to provide for yourself.    The fear is that you aren’t good enough.   If you aren’t good enough then what.  What does the future hold for you if you aren’t good enough?

The fear  you are not good enough is just a thought you made up, where is the truth in that statement “you’re not good enough?”.

Take one step out of fear by creating a positive frame of mind.   To create a positive frame of mind think positive.   Tame the voice of fear and replace it with  the voice of creation.

“I am creating my future.”

“I am  living fully today.”

“I am enjoying the moment.”

“I am good enough.”

Replace the old thoughts with new ones.  Practice, practice and practice focusing on what you want as an outcome and move forward each day.

In this video Dr. Michael Duckett talks about overcoming fear.   Coaching also works to move people beyond limiting beliefs, assumptions and interpretations.

Take the next step to conquer fear in your life.  Focus on what you can do right now, right now and solve the problems rather than trying to figure out what will happen in the future.

“Be brave enough to live creatively…. You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you will discover will be wonderful. What you will discover will be yourself. ”
Alan Alda

Worry … is it worth it?

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.”
Corrie ten Boom

What does worry cost you?   When you worry  you lose your power, you give it up, and it takes the joy out of today.    Think of worry as a thief, a thief that only robs you of your energy.     What are you worrying about right now?

One way to shift your mind from worrying about what might go wrong to thinking about what will go right.    If worry stops you in your tracks and shifts your thinking to “I can’t do _______________”, what would happen if you changed that to “I can do _______________”, instead?

Our society dwells on what can go wrong most of the time.   Think about the news you are listening to.   What was positive and uplifting in what you heard or watched?

We tend to use words like “don’t”, “watch out for”, “can’t” or some other negative view.   What would happen if you created sentences and thoughts that were powerfully supportive?   Think about what you can make happen.   Think about what you can do.   Think about what it will be like when you succeed.   Focus on the outcome you desire rather than the one you don’t want.

Take a look at Corrie’s quote about worry.  What does she say about worry, “it robs today of its strength”?    Here are some thing you can do.

1. Acknowledge the issue you face.   Say it out loud, “The problem is ___________”.

2. What can be done to solve the problem?   List out all the ideas you have.

3.  What one idea is something you can start today?

4. Focus on what you can do.   Focus on the result you want.

If you don’t know what you can do then create a mindmap and explore some ways to work out the worries.   Think about solutions to the problem and the positive outcome rather than what negative things could happen.

What can you do to worry less?

 

 

Time out

Take a minute today out of your busyness and stop. Sit down, be silent and relax. Have those around you do the same. Silence the noise. Stop the action. Shutter the voices. Silence the mind.

Do it for one minute. You have the time.

Relax, rejuvenate, rejoice, reflect.

In today’s culture movement and doing are valued. Sitting still being quiet and relaxing are not values most people cherish. What if you spent a moment relaxing, allowing the tension and stress ( a societal poison) go? Would that be of value to you?

Our lives are filled to the brim. The worry or thought is if we aren’t doing – always doing – then we are of course NOT doing. The TV is on to numb our brains after being bombarded by the needs of the day. Unplug the TV – let there be quiet.

It only takes a minute.

Relax, rejuvenate, rejoice, reflect.

Do it daily. Make it a habit.