Monthly Archives: October 2015

crossing the abyss

“Life is painful and messed up. It gets complicated at the worst of times, and sometimes you have no idea where to go or what to do. Lots of times people just let themselves get lost, dropping into a wide open, huge abyss. But that’s why we have to keep trying. We have to push through all that hurts us, work past all our memories that are haunting us. Sometimes the things that hurt us are the things that make us strongest. A life without experience, in my opinion, is no life at all. And that’s why I tell everyone that, even when it hurts, never stop yourself from living.”
― Alysha Speer


What holds you back?

What would make your life better?

What stops you from having that better life?

Maybe a better life would be simply preparing a resume’ so that you could get a job that you really want to do.  Cross the abyss and start today.  Design the life you want to live rather than feel like there is no other career that would possibly offer you the work that you really want to do.   The abyss is the fear that believing something else is possible really isn’t.

A relationship is desired and nothing ever starts.  The abyss is the fear of rejection, the fear that someone would find out that you aren’t who you really want to be.  Why not become the person you really want to be?   Take a step, and then another and cross over the abyss and become the person you were meant to be.

For some people the word is “shame” and breaking through the wall of shame is like  an abyss that is far to wide to cross.   There is no bridge strong enough to hold you up until you reach the other side.   Instead you hope that the shame will melt away and that you can find a harbor of contentment right where you are.  Let the shame go and cross the bridge to the other side, let your life flourish.

What is the abyss you have in front of you?   What would you do if the abyss wasn’t there?   Where would you be if you crossed the abyss?


choosing ends the debate

We make our decisions, and then our decisions turn around and make us.”
― F.W. Boreham



To make a decision or not.   For some people there are just too many options and each one of those options has something positive that they want in their life and as a result they choose none of the options.  The end result is anxiety, or discontent, unease or unhappiness.   Why not make a decision and move forward.

Choosing and making a decision means that internal debate that is leading you to nowhere ends.  Choosing isn’t about right or wrong, it is about trying something and learning.  Not choosing is a choice that ends up creating more frustration and anxiety.

What do you need to make a decision about?

What is stopping you from making a choice?

What would happen if you make a choice?

It doesn’t matter what it is you’ve probably had an internal debate that has gone on far too long.  Make a choice and stop thinking about making a choice.

get more sleep

[S]leep, and enough of it, is the prime necessity. Enough exercise, and good food and enough, are other necessities. But sleep—good sleep, and enough of it—this is a necessity without which you cannot have the exercise of use, nor the food. ~Edward Everett Hale, “How to Get the Best of It,” c.1892


Do you get seven to eight hours of sleep per night?   Do you have a regular time in which you get to bed?

If you said “No” to either question you may be limiting your effectiveness.   Sleep helps improve your cognitive abilities and that surely is something that has daily value.  Sleep improves your ability to react and improves decision-making.

Many people find that cutting short sleep is the best way to cram everything they want to do into their day.  Cutting short sleep isn’t the right way to get more into the day.

Sleep improves immune system function and to get the benefits of a stronger immune system requires at least seven hours of sleep per night.    Sleep can also improve the ability to manage weight issues.

If you are one of the many people who thrive on getting less sleep you are really fooling yourself.  The body creates a negative feedback cycle when you reduce your sleep and over time that lack of sleep will begin to create a series of negative impacts that may be difficult to overcome.   Making sleep a habit where you get at least 7-8 hours of sleep a night will help you live better and more healthy life.  Getting enough sleep will likely reduce Dr. visits and reduce the chances of getting a lifestyle disease (diabetes is one of them).

Make the change to get more sleep.  Turn off electronics at least 30 minutes before bed.  Read a book (a non-electric one) and let  your body relax.  Dim the lights and encourage the body to move into a state of calm.   Get the sleep you need to create the best opportunity to function at your highest levels each day.

“Life is in short cycles or periods; we are quickly tired, but we have rapid rallies. A man is spent by his work, starved, prostrate; he will not lift his hand to save his life; he can never think more. He sinks into deep sleep and wakes with renewed youth, with hope, courage, fertile in resources, and keen for daring adventure.”~Ralph Waldo Emerson, Letters and Social Aims, “Inspiration”