“I have a subconscious list of rules for how reality should work. I did not develop these rules on purpose, and most of them don’t make sense – which is disturbing when you consider that they are an attempt to govern the behavior of reality – but they exist, and they play a large role in determining how I react to the things that happen to me. Large enough that a majority of the feelings I feel are simply a reaction to reality not complying with my arbitrary set of rules. ”
― Allie Brosh
Think about the rules you have in your life. You have rules for everything. Your life is about rules, like stopping at a train crossing or stopping at a stop sign.
If you are thinking I don’t live by rules then just look at your habits. You do have habits, things you do, things you say, the way you approach a problem or the way you tackle each day. You do have habits and some work for you and some don’t.
Habits are rules that we use to reduce the amount of thinking we have to do. Habits are programs that run in the background of your consciousness and some work well and some don’t. If you find yourself doing things that don’t produce great results for you then you might want to change some of the rules you operate by.
Sometimes the issue is trying to find the rules that you want to change so that you can change them. Some habits/rules are so embedded in our daily life that we aren’t even aware of them. Becoming aware of those “hidden” rules is the first step to creating positive change. What rules are running your life the way you don’t want them to? What would you like to change?