Monthly Archives: November 2008

Be amazing

“The difference between what we are doing and what we are capable of would resolve the issues of the world.”  Gandhi

To live at your full potential would be amazing wouldn’t it?  What would it take for you to realize your full potential? 

Be Thankful


Reflect on what you are thankful for.  

There is always something that one can be thankful for.

Let it go!

What makes you angry?

 Does something that might happen in the future make you angry?

Does something that is happening right this moment make you angry?

Or, does something that has happened in the past make you angry?

What triggers that emotional uprising within that surfaces as anger?

What if you could control the emotional well from bursting forth?

Take a moment to look at what emotional triggers generate anger within you?

Are they things you can control or are they things others control and impose on you? 

What choices can you make when there is a trigger that causes a flare up that causes distress within you?

Who is making the choice to be angry or upset?  

What would it be like to be anger free?  What would it be like to manage anger ?

It is possible with practice to release the emotions of anger gracefully and peacefully.

Take a deep breath …

 “Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.

 Henry David Thoreau


Are you lost?

Are you navigating through life not sure why you do what you do?

Are you just surviving the day to day issues?

Does it feel like there is more to life than what you are experiencing?

Do you have a sense of purpose?

Do you have goals that you are working towards that are an extension of whom you truly are?

Do your goals make sense?

Do you believe there is more?   Have you given up hope?   Are you just marching to an unknown drummer?

What does life feel like most of the time?   Is it good?   Do you see joy, beauty, truth and happiness most of the time?   Are you using your strengths most of the time?


Indeed there is more.   There are answers.   There is purpose.  

Use your gifts and talents – be all that you were truly meant to be.

Why not start today!   Why not start now!

stop doing list


“The most important list you’ll ever make is the list of things you’re going to stop doing.”

What is on your list of things to stop doing?

Are there things that you do that don’t matter?  Why do them?

be a seeker

“The only thing that we can know is that we know nothing and that is the highest flight of human wisdom.”  Leo Tolstoycopy-of-italy_turin_2003-112


Are you seeking a better today?

Are you continually seeking knowledge which can be transformed into wisdom?

Are you seeing the beauty of today?

What are you doing then?

breathe freely



“The prime cause of our suffering is our wanting things to be different than they are!”  Susan Jeffers


When our expectations exceed reality we generate toxins in our body that produce a variety of pain.   For some people it is debilitating headaches, for others it could be intramuscular pains that seems as real as if there were some physical trauma that caused the pain.   In reality our body is reacting from the stress of expectation and dealing with the stress by creating pains in the body.

If we could align our expectations with “what is” rather than “what it should be” then a lot of the stress we experience could be removed.  

There are many stress reducing techniques available, some are breathing techniques where you focus on the intake and exhale of air into the body.   By controlling the flow of air we can control the flow and impact of stress.   It takes practice and some thought to get the breathing technique to produce the desired results.  Like exercise it is something that needs to be done with some regularity in order to produce the greatest benefit.   Breathing correctly needs to become a habit.


what matters?

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote “Things that matter most in life  should never be at the mercy of things which matter least.”

How often in our walk through life do we pay attention to the things that matter the most and put our energy and effort into those things that matter the least?   Everyday we put off what would mean most to us and work on things that in the long run will have a very little impact on our lives.  We get stuck in a routine of sameness, a routine of habit that forms the cadence of our life.   Each day our predictable and routine self goes through the motions of sameness, comfort and ease.  

Some people eventually recognize the routine and realize that the routine is not a good measure of the self, yet breaking the habit of routine is often difficult to do.

What would you describe in your life as routine or habit?   Are these habits things that matter the least or the most?

The real deal

What is the real deal?

What is authentic about anything?

When something is authentic we say that it is the fully trustworthy article.   When we say a person is authentic we are saying that they truthfully represent themselves in all facets of their life with honesty and truthfulness.

In leadership the requirements for a leader are to be authentic.  A leader that is trustworthy, a leader that is genuine, a leader that is honest, a leader that is interested in the follower is a true or authentic leader.

Why is authenticity important?   Would you trust a person who represented themselves in one way and acted in another?   We search for congruence in action and word in most people but especially in a leader.

This above all:
To thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

~ Hamlet, Shakespeare

cast a vision

dsc00486Continuing with the theme of leadership, one of the tasks of a leader is to create a compelling story for the future, a vision of what can be.

Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others.Jonathan Swift


“A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it is an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more.”   Rosabeth Moss Kanter


“People are more inclined to be drawn in if their leader has a compelling vision. Great leaders help people get in touch with their own aspirations and then will help them forge those aspirations into a personal vision.”  John Kotter


John Kotter and Rosabeth Moss Kanter are respected teachers of leadership.   Jonathan Swift lived between 1667 and 1745 and was the author of Gulliver’s Travels.  A leader can paint a picture of the future that is compelling and vibrant.  A coach on the other hand is helping the client become their own self and one of the tasks for the client would be to create a compelling vision.

“Your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have”  Paul Arden

What is your vision?