“Pain is a relatively objective, physical phenomenon; suffering is our psychological resistance to what happens. Events may create physical pain, but they do not in themselves create suffering. Resistance creates suffering. Stress happens when your mind resists what is… The only problem in your life is your mind’s resistance to life as it unfolds. ”
― Dan Millman
“what you resist persists”, perhaps you have heard that phrase at least once in your life.
Push against a wall and it pushes back. Push against the future and it pushes you back into the past. Resist change and what you have today you’ll have tomorrow. Be willing to rewrite your future.
What does it take to rewrite your future? When we write our own future we are doing based on the accumulation of our past experiences to provide guidance in the actions we take. We leverage our past actions in our present experience and when we do we really aren’t changing or challenging the actions of the past. To rewrite our future means to bring in something from outside of our routine experiences. It means looking outside of our realm of experience and seeking something vastly different. It means breaking from the past to adopt something new.
For many people tomorrow is largely a repeat of the past. Getting up at the same time, eating the same food, using the same route to work, the same … (the pattern is the same). Breaking the pattern requires energy and thought, a new intention, and bringing in something different. Routines and habits play a big part in your life. They provide consistency and regularity, and they also reduce the variety and uncertainty that can add value to your life.
Breaking a pattern may create a sense of anxiety, a sense of fear may be generated because it takes thought and attention to do things in a different way and there is a possibility that something could go different (as opposed to right or wrong). What happens if you take a new route to work and you find the traffic is slower and it takes longer? What happens if you found a new place that you could stop and enjoy a cup of coffee and get some work done?
The point is to make small deliberate changes each day. Try something new. It might be eating something different, just to generate a change. Take time to relax, intentional relaxation, where you take a time out from all the busyness of life. Take time to notice what you appreciate about each day. Take time to acknowledge someone else in your life. These small changes can make a difference.
“The human spirit lives on creativity and dies in conformity and routine.”
― Vilayat Inayat Khan