“Resonance happens when your mind and heart come into sync.”
― Ravindra Shukla
Have you had that experience where time and your mind and body are in alignment and things just work? Life seems easy in that moment, balance, harmonic, filled with momentum and filled with peace at the same time. Have you had that happen to you?
What would it feel like to be able to step into that space where your head and heart and were at peace with each other? It could be an authentic creative space that may be able to suspend the past and the future for a moment and allow you to fully experience being in the present, in the moment, no worries, no fear, just a feeling of peace.
The idea is to find harmony within yourself and within nature and then let the two merge together so there is this resonance of life in that moment.
The words of Ed Viswanathan, “All matter, including you and I, has rhythmic movement within it and our quest should be to create a proper rhythmic harmony within ourselves…you feel happy when you sit near an ocean because your vibrations try to synchronize with the frequency of the waves.” , echo that resonate peace.
When do you feel at peace with you? When are you in harmony with nature?
When was the last time you felt a sense of serenity and joy?
“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”
Yes, you do have a problem. The problem is being authentic and not pretending to be someone you are not. It happens at work, it happens at home, it happens almost everywhere you go. Being authentic, being who you really are is difficult to do when you are trying to meet the expectations of others. The lack of authenticity shows up at work as doing what you don’t really want to do and doing it because you have to. It rubs against the very nature of who you are and slowly you change the work to match your strengths.
Personal relationships can be ruined by the lack of authenticity as well. Marriages will fail if the partners hide behind inauthentic behaviors. Saying one thing and doing another or pretending to be a person you are not just to prevent loneliness creates a new set of problems that will need to be dealt with. It takes courage to be authentic and reveal the real issues that one faces to others.
For those who can be authentic is the reward of freedom and happiness. The amount of work that it requires to hide from your own reality creates a great deal of internal stress and unhappiness. Fear keeps people from being authentic and fear is what creates the masks of deception.
So, what are your problems? What masks are you hiding behind? What is it costing you?
“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.”
― Marvin J. Ashton
Do you work for an organization that would be characterized as a “best place to work”? Do you feel motivated to come to work? Do you feel like there is a clear path of advancement? Are your skills and talents being used? Is the company ethical in all aspects? How would you describe your place of work?
Great places to work don’t just happen, they are created, they require great leaders. Great companies have great cultures. Great cultures reflect great values. If your values are not in complete alignment with the values of the company there is going to be some cognitive dissonance that you’ll experience and that may impact your ability to thrive. Do you own the values of the company as your own? Do your values fully align with the company you work for?
Great places to work value people. Leaders recognize the value of relationships and nurture and foster opportunity for growth within the staff. People who can stretch and engage all the talents you bring. In a sense a great place to work is going to have an environment that is consistent with a coaching culture. A culture that enables the best out of each person on a consistent basis.
A coaching culture works by engaging the parasympathetic nervous system which leads to better performance. Imagine a culture which is committed to your success and developing and improving your social and emotional awareness so that you could develop professional and personally. In that type of environment employees would feel empowered to speak with honesty and candor about significant issues. Organizational transparency would exist and lead to less conflict, less withholding of information and better engagement.
In a sense the best place to work would be an environment of compassionate understanding with high performance objectives. It would be an environment with excellent performance objectives that challenge and require the best of everyone and with a culture of compassionate understanding people would want to perform. That is different from a culture that “needs” to perform.
What kind of culture does your place of work encourage or discourage? How do you feel about going to work each day? Are you working in a place you’d consider the best place to work?
Is this the best place to work?
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“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”
― Apple Inc.
It starts when …
Maybe you need to look at yourself in a new way this coming year. Change is about seeing yourself as you want to be not as you are.
Perhaps you are getting tired of the way things are and have been and you’re ready to look at yourself in a new way and the only problem is taking that first step. For some taking that first necessary step is scary, take it anyway. Step across the boundary of fear and start seeing yourself in a new way.
You’ll smile on the inside when you make that step. When you commit to losing those extra pounds. When you commit to taking responsibility for your life. When you commit to doing work you love to do. When you commit to being authentic. When you make a choice to live fully. When you make a commitment and honor it change will come.
Start today. Look at the mirror and look deeply into the eyes looking back at you. What do you want those eyes to say? What do you want your life to mean? Honor the truth you have within.
“Often misconstrued, authenticity is not about being an open book, revealing every detail of yourself without rhyme or reason. It is simply the act of openly and courageously seeing what needs to be seen, saying what needs to be said, doing what needs to be done, and becoming that which you are intent on being.”
― Scott Edmund Miller
What does it mean to be authentic?
Just answer that question. What would need to change in order for you to be fully authentic? Being authentic means being honest with your talents, your strengths, your weaknesses and your assessment of yourself. Too often people focus on what they think is wrong with them to such a degree that they hide their strengths and abilities. Give yourself some time to do an assessment and find out what your authenticity score is. In fact take this assessment (Authenticity Assessment) and see how you are doing with your own personal authenticity.
Why be authentic?
What happens when you pretend to be someone you’re not? It usually results in an intense personal conflict that shows up in how you work with others, your quality of relationships, your career success and happiness and just about every other area of your life. People don’t want to be fakes and feel like they have to be fake in order for others to like them and inside they feel like something is really missing.
Living authentically means revealing your true self to the world around you. It means peeling away the layers that have been built over time to protect the ego. The authentic you can become the happy you.
What would happen if you could really enjoy the relationships you have with others and restore broken relationships from the past. How would that feel?
How would it feel to get the job that really matches your abilities and the way you want to work? For most people it would be a huge relief to do work that had meaning and made a real difference.
Go ahead, take the assessment and evaluate where you are. What do you want to change? Take the (Authenticity Assessment) today, it will just a few minutes.
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“Control leads to compliance; autonomy leads to engagement.”
― Daniel H. Pink
Do you work in an environment that wants your strengths, talents and abilities? Do you work where you are expected to do as your are told?
Which work environment would get the most out of you? The first one or the second one?
What gets you engaged in the work you are doing?
– The work
– The people
– The culture
– The environment
– The purpose and mission of the organization
– The values of the organization
– The perks and benefits
When you have a new idea, how it is received? Does the culture bring in the voices of the introverts? Does the culture promote professional development? Does everyone contribute? Do non-performers seem to hang around forever? Are their systems in place to help employees perform at higher levels? Does the company move quickly or does it take forever to get a new idea or process in place? Is there a focus on being better?
A great organization is going to help you be successful. Your part is to make the organization successful through the skills you have. If the work is boring or isn’t adding value, why would you work there? If you aren’t using your skills to your best ability then find out how you can make a bigger contribution.
Does the company “reward” employees and celebrate successes? Are there reviews when things don’t work well to find out how to make things work better? That isn’t a witch hunt, it’s a sincere effort to improve processes and results. Business growth is based on learning and people learn through experimentation and finding out what doesn’t work (some would call that failure).
What kind of company or organization do you work for? Is it liberating the best from you on a consistent basis? Are you growing and being challenged with new work? What are you bringing to the table, is it your best?
Answer the questions. Are you working to your full potential? Do you love what you are doing? Are you able to do what you love? What is important to you?
Are you engaged in the work you do?
“Mindfulness helps us get better at seeing the difference between what’s happening and the stories we tell ourselves about what’s happening, stories that get in the way of direct experience. Often such stories treat a fleeting state of mind as if it were our entire and permanent self.”
― Sharon Salzberg
Are you really the person you think you are? You might be thinking, this is a trick question, or of course I’m the person I think I am. It is interesting that studies show that American’s have an inflated view of their abilities and how they perform. This recent study about teacher’s shows that most teachers believe they are highly effective. College professors are at an amazingly high level of proficiency where 94% believe they are above average.
Teen drivers believe they too are above average. Startling statistics show that most people are above average drivers. So, are all drivers above average? Of course not. What is happening is that people want to feel better than average. Who can be an average driver? It’s the other person isn’t it?
Scientific American recently printed an article on the increased sense of optimism many people have. The optimistic self may have a better chance at advancing in society, career and life. After all who wants to hang out with a depressed person.
When you are looking around at other people, what do you see? Are they the ones that are above average or is it you that is above average? Who is this average person anyway? Is there such a person? When you look in the mirror who is looking back? Is it the above average person or is it someone else?
How does being above average serve you?