power, what’s yours?

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“The measure of a man is what he does with power.”
― Plato

What kind of power do you have?

How do you use your power?

First we have to define what power is?   Is power the ability to carry out a goal despite resistance?   Do you have the power to achieve your goals or do you experience some form of resistance from others or from other things?   Do you have the power to influence?  How did you answer those questions?

Getting out of bed in the morning means having power over self.   Perhaps you have to face the temptation and desire to stay in bed.   When you don’t find that activation energy to get out of bed it seems that the bed has more power than you do.

Do you have power over your habits?   Do you find it easy to change the way you behave and act?   Do you find it easy to change how you eat, exercise, sleep or relate to others?   What would you want to change?   Where would you like power that you don’t have power now?

Where does power show up at your work?   Do you have equal power with others or do you feel you have less or perhaps more power than others do?   If you do have power then how do you use that power?  What kind of power do you have?  Do you have control over outcomes?

What does your power look like?   Is it power over others?   Is it power through others?  Is it power with others?

How do you use your power?   Do you use it to create more value?   Do you use it to control others?   Do you use it to empower others?

Think about how you use your power.  Think about how others see your power and how it impacts them.  What would you like to change?

 

 

be intentional first

“Powerful words come with powerful intent. Where you have passion, strength, courage, and determination you can accomplish anything!”
― K.L. Toth

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It starts with an intention.  All of your actions start with an intention, an idea that is ready to take shape and be acted upon.  Perhaps you  can call intention as the motivational force that enables results.  Intention is more than just and idea, it is a commitment to getting a result.

What do you want to change in your life?  Has it changed for you?  When did you become intentional about creating change in your life?

Notice that intention precedes attention.  You need to figure out what you want and then commit to it.

If life isn’t going the way you want then decide to do something about it and then make a commitment to taking action.  Write down what you want and then write down your intention.

Want to lose weight.   Write it down and then write down how much you want to lose.  Imagine yourself at your ideal weight.  Write down what you eat each day.  Count the calories you consume.  What would you notice?

Want a better job.  Write down what that job would be.  What are the attributes of the ideal job for you.   What skills would you have to develop?   What do you need to become in order to get your ideal job?

Want better relationships with others.  Write down what that would look like?  What does it take to have a better relationship with anyone?   Set a goal to create establish a better relationship.

Want better work/life optimization.  Write down what it means to have an optimized life and a work life that is optimal.  What does it really look like for you?  What steps can you take to achieve that goal?

Choose the area of your life that you’d like to see improve.  Set a goal and then take action.  Make it happen.  You can take that first step today.

create a magical moment

“I do believe in an everyday sort of magic — the inexplicable connectedness we sometimes experience with places, people, works of art and the like; the eerie appropriateness of moments of synchronicity; the whispered voice, the hidden presence, when we think we’re alone.”
― Charles de Lint

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It only takes a moment to transform a boring, dreary day into something magical.   It only takes  a moment to put a smile on someone else’s face or to create a space for laughter to fill.   Create a magical moment each day and see how it transforms your work, relationships and your life.

The idea is simple, put some fun in the space you occupy.   Something simple, something amazing, something that is different and unexpected that can move the ordinary to extraordinary.

Too much pressure at work, too much seriousness, or too much work then make something happen that shifts the energy towards the positive.  Create a magical moment that will be remembered, that illuminates the darkness with a spark of energy.

How do you create a magical moment?

1. Drop a flower on the desk of a co-worker who is feeling challenged or depressed.

2. Write a note of appreciation.

3. Ask someone to smile and take a picture.

4. Buy a random person lunch.

5. Get people to stand up and move in a meeting – disrupt the status quo.

There are hundreds of ways to make the day magical.  Find one and try  it.  Inspire and motivate others to experience good cheer.  Give them a reason to smile or laugh.  You’ll feel better for it as well.

surviving or thriving in the workplace

… it is possible to heal. It is even possible to thrive. Thriving means more than just an alleviation of symptoms, more than Band-Aids, more than functioning adequately. Thriving means enjoying a feeling of wholeness, satisfaction in your life and work, genuine love and trust in your relationships, pleasure in your body.”
― Ellen Bass

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Are you thriving at work or are you one of the people who finds Monday filled with anxiety?   It seems that many people are finding that work is becoming more stress filled and more anxiety ridden.  Expectations are increasing, more tasks are being added to the daily work expectations and workers are on edge with those new burdens.    What does an employee do?   Continue to absorb the requests of management or find ways to create boundaries that enable success in the workplace?

If you are surviving in the workplace what would you want to see changed?

  • What would it take for that change to take place?
  • What kind of request do you need to make?
  • What would happen if you did make a request for change?   How do you know?

If you are thriving in the work environment what makes it work for you?

  • What enables you to thrive?
  • What do you get to do that you love doing?
  • What keeps the stress manageable?

If you’re not thriving in the workplace what could be done to increase your satisfaction?

  • Do you have a mentor to consult?
  • Do you have a trusted adviser who could help with some ideas?
  • Do you work with a coach?

If work is a daily grind find some support so you can start changing how work is impacting your life.   Take time for breaks to breathe and decompress.  Find time to meditate for a few minutes.  Move, get up and walk to reduce the tension  you experience.

Find a way to thrive in your life.  It will be better for you emotionally, spiritually and physically.  It’s your life, make it your best one.

take the tension out

“Relaxing the shoulders is vital for relaxation in general. However, owing to the effects of gravity, relaxation is problematic unless we let the shoulders remain in their natural place. Let the shoulders drop, or settle in harmony with gravity, into their most comfortable position. It isn’t too difficult to do this for a moment, but to sustain this condition unconsciously in our lives is another matter. We raise our shoulders unnaturally when we lean on a desk or hold the telephone between our shoulders and ears, when we are shocked by a loud noise, and who knows how many other times throughout the day. And the unsettling of the shoulders doesn’t have to be large to produce anxiety, stiff necks, and headaches. Just slightly raising them will create tension, and this tension throws the nervous system out of balance.

When do we raise the shoulders in daily life? What are we feeling at that moment and leading up to that moment? Remembering that the body reflects the mind, and that the raising of the shoulders not only creates tension but also is a physical manifestation of psychological tension itself, what are the roots of this tension? Bringing the mind into the moment, let’s observe ourselves in a state free of preconceived ideas or beliefs. Don’t guess at these questions. Observe yourself in relationship to others and the universe”
― H.E. Davey, Japanese Yoga: The Way of Dynamic Meditation

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How much stress are you experiencing right now?

How would you feel if you could just let the stress go?

Many people are living stress filled lives.  The stress creates tension and tension creates inflammation.  The nerves are triggered and pain follows.  The immune system starts to weaken and the body’s response is more pain and discomfort.

How much stress is in your life?   Work, appointments, traffic, relationships, finances, fitness, …   What isn’t going the way you want in your life?

What are yo doing about the stress?   Are you taking time out to relax and release the tension?   Are you being kind to yourself?   Are you taking care of your mind and your body?    Are you creating a period of time to just let go of the tension?

Relieving stress and tension requires that you create zones of time in your day to step away from the stress and tension.   Take 5 minutes each hour and go for a short walk.   Do some deep breathing – slow inhales and slow exhales.  Do that for 3 or 4 minutes each hour (while you are walking around).  Your body and mind need tension free zones of time to recover from the stresses of life.   Take care of yourself and your body will take care of you.   Will you do that?

make life your practice

“I believe that we learn by practice. Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living, the principles are the same. In each, it is the performance of a dedicated precise set of acts, physical or intellectual, from which comes shape of achievement, a sense of one’s being, a satisfaction of spirit. One becomes, in some area, an athlete of God. Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, of faith, of desire. Practice is a means of inviting the perfection desired.”
― Martha Graham

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Practicing isn’t always going to be fun, yet it is what leads to perfecting your craft, your work, your relationships, your communications, your community and your life.

What are you working on continually to get better at?

When you practice you grow.  Practice invites you to greater challenges.  Practice is the foundation of confidence and competence.    By enhancing your abilities you increase your chances for new opportunities.

Practicing isn’t about being perfect it is about recognizing the imperfections and adjusting so the potential of an error is reduced in the future.

What do you want to get better at?   What will it take?   Will you do it?

 

stepping forward or backward

“Every day you may make progress. Every step may be fruitful. Yet there will stretch out before you an ever-lengthening, ever-ascending, ever-improving path. You know you will never get to the end of the journey. But this, so far from discouraging, only adds to the joy and glory of the climb.”
― Winston S. Churchill

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Two steps forward?

Are your steps taking you in the direction you desire most?

Are you moving forward?

Ask yourself those questions and write down your answers.   Don’t let the questions just reside in your mind for a moment take some time and contemplate the answer.   A superficial glance at the questions and moving on or moving quickly to something else won’t bring you closer to your dreams.

Pause.  Stop and really examine where your steps are leading you.  Where are you really going?   When will you get there?  What obstacles are in the way?

If you’re like a lot of people pausing isn’t something that feels like progress.  Pausing may feel like going backwards.  That is only if you compare yourself to everyone else who is just going in some direction hoping to get somewhere.  Most people don’t even know why they are doing what they are doing.   It might just be that someone told them to do something and then they’ll find the answer they’re looking for.  Maybe they won’t find anything but they will be busy.   Are you one of those busy people?  Pause.  Think about what you are doing and why you are doing it.  Take a deep breath and exhale.  Think about where you are going?

Are you moving along the right path?   Are  you struggling to move forward?   Are you stuck in the sand?   Are you sliding backwards?

What are your answers?