the daily routine

SONY DSC“Most of our faculties lie dormant because they can rely upon Habit, which knows what there is to be done and has no need of their services.”
― Marcel Proust

An enormous amount of your time is managed by the habits you have.  Habits can replace cognitive thinking with programmed patterns.   Driving to work can become a habit and so much so that act of driving to work becomes a non-experience.  Have you ever lost sense of driving to work?   Most people have.

If a habit like driving can be programmed into the mind, how many other daily activities have been replaced by a habit.  How you interact and greet other people can become a habit, the same phrase used over and over again.    Work could turn into a habit as well, routine, ordered and structured.

Have you noticed what things have been become routine at work?   What about other areas of your life?

If you decide your habits are not helping you grow or do things in a new way then it might be time to evaluate your habits and determine how they are impacting your life.

– Monitor your day.
– See what things are routine.
– Determine what things should be routine and what things should be changed.
– Start something new.  Do something different.  Be bold.
– Test the ideas.  Are you doing something better than you did before?

There are many things you can do to break a routine.  Take a different way to work.  Eat at different time.  Take a class rather than watching TV.

Interrupt the “normal” way of life.  It isn’t always easy.  Making changes allows you to grow and growth is good.

work as practice

“I believe that we learn by practice. Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living, the principles are the same. In each, it is the performance of a dedicated precise set of acts, physical or intellectual, from which comes shape of achievement, a sense of one’s being, a satisfaction of spirit. One becomes, in some area, an athlete of God. Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, of faith, of desire. Practice is a means of inviting the perfection desired.”
― Martha Graham

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How well do you do you work?   Do you do it as well as you’d like to do it?  Are you given the chance to really practice your skills or are you just doing the work without practice.

If you watched the “NCAA Basketball Championship” then you noticed that the winning team was only able to their results through hours and hours of practice.  A winning team needs a lot of practice, lots of working together, working on understanding how others communicate and to learn the strengths and abilities of the other team members.

How much time do you spend learning about the other people on your team?  What are their weaknesses?  What are their strengths?   How would your team function if you could maximize the strengths of each of the team members?

In your role, what would you like to be more practiced in?   What would help you perform at a higher level?   How would you establish a program to help you improve your work and get more practice?

living beyond the ordinary

“Ordinary people believe only in the possible. Extraordinary people visualize not what is possible or probable, but rather what is impossible. And by visualizing the impossible, they begin to see it as possible”
― Cherie Carter-Scott

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What kind of life are you living right now?   Is it the kind of life you really want or are you looking for something that would make your life more than just ordinary, plain, a dull grey rather than a life that is wonder filled, exciting and full of color.

Which column of words below describes your life?

Ordinary Extraordinary
Comfortable Uncomfortable
Reactive Proactive
Fearful Fearless
The easy way the right way
Self-centered Other-centered
Risk adverse Risk tolerant
What’s in it for me We all win
Closed Minded Open Minded
Resigned Engaged
Victim Creator
Stingy Generous
Judgmental Acceptance
Waiting Acting

What are you intentionally doing to make your life better?

What are you taking charge of?   What will it take so that you can start living an extraordinary life?

Step outside of your comfort zone and explore living  with feeling, with zest, with abundance, with a sense of being alive and with a sense of excitement.  Think about where you are right now and where you could be, what is it that you really want?  Set the intention and take action today.

support or challenge

“If you are facing a new challenge or being asked to do something that you have never done before don’t be afraid to step out. You have more capability than you think you do but you will never see it unless you place a demand on yourself for more.”   Joyce Meyer

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Are you being challenged at work and in life?   What are you challenged by?   Now, by challenge think about in the sense of growth and learning rather than hardship and stress.

Leaders create challenging environments for followers.   The provide roles or opportunities that challenge the skills, intelligence and strengths of their followers.   You may have seen that in some aspect of your life where you were given challenges that forced you to grow, what was that like?

Some people who act as leaders provide too much challenge and that challenge is in the form of intimidation, too many rules and threats.   These types of leaders are often unaware of their behaviors and the impact they are having on their followers.

“We live by encouragement and die without it — slowly, sadly, and angrily.”
― Celeste Holm

Leaders also provide support, the kind that is encouraging and motivating as that fuels accomplishment.   Do you remember a time when someone supported your dreams and desires and encouraged you to seek after your dreams?   A leader will recognize your strengths and challenge you to fully realize them.

The danger for a leader though is not to provide so much support that there is no challenge or no opportunity to grow.   To much support and result in laziness or complacency.

The leader is seeking to understand how great a challenge and how much support each of their followers needs and creates a vision that empowers the followers to achieve great things.

When was the last time you felt supported and challenged in your endeavors?

searching for harmonic resonance

“Resonance happens when your mind and heart come into sync.”
― Ravindra Shukla

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Have you had that experience where time and your mind and body are in alignment and things just work?    Life seems easy in that moment, balance, harmonic, filled with momentum and filled with peace at the same time.   Have you had that happen to you?

What would it feel like to be able to step into that space where your head and heart and were at peace with each other?   It could be an authentic creative space that may be able to suspend the past and the future for a moment and allow you to fully experience being in the present, in the moment, no worries, no fear, just a feeling of peace.

The idea is to find harmony within yourself and within nature and then let the two merge together so there is this resonance of life in that moment.

The words of Ed Viswanathan, “All matter, including you and I, has rhythmic movement within it and our quest should be to create a proper rhythmic harmony within ourselves…you feel happy when you sit near an ocean because your vibrations try to synchronize with the frequency of the waves.” , echo that resonate peace.

When do you feel at peace with you?   When are you in harmony with nature?

When was the last time you felt a sense of serenity and joy?

knowing your blind spots

“As a leader, 1st, work on yourself- increase your self-awareness. There shouldn’t be any other urgent agenda than this. Get enlightened! Know very well who you’re including your strengths, weaknesses, and blind spots!”
― Assegid Habtewold

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Everyone has blind spots in their lives, an area that they are unaware of and how it can impact other people.  Some people exploit blind spots to gain control or have an advantage of another person.    Finding out what the blind spots are, being aware gives you a chance to live a better life.

In business executives work with coaches to help them reveal their blind spots, poor communications, anger management, overwhelm, time management, focus and more, can derail a career.   Knowing what those blind spots are opportunities for getting better results.

Not everyone wants to know what their blind spots are and yet knowing them, being aware of what might cause problems, is valuable.   Being blind to what others see can impact relationships, careers and friendships.

What can you do to increase personal awareness?

Ask others to share what they see when you are emotionally stressed.   Ask them to share what your strengths and weaknesses are.   Those are starting points to revealing the blind spots.

Organizations can have blind spots as well.   People come into the organization and adopt the practices and procedures of an organization and over time lose the opportunity to understand why things are done in a certain way.

What are your blind spots?  How are they affecting you?

break free from the ego

“The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person and family history, belief systems, and often nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.”
― Eckhart Tolle

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It was holding him back from being the person he wanted to be.   He wanted more and knew that he had it within to do more and at the end of the day little got done.   The ego held his hand back from making a call, from finishing the last touches on a piece of work, and from realizing his dreams.

I’ve heard from many people the story of wanting more and doing less.   The ego always stepped in fear filled and delayed action.   Procrastination is a sign of an ego that is not pleased with past results.  Perfectionism always says it isn’t good enough.   The ego fears rejection and would rather see things delayed or not getting done at all seeped in a belief that it wouldn’t be good enough.

Courage is the antidote to inaction.   The courage to take action, to push against the ego and see beyond the fear is what will open the door to freedom.    The “ego” that is pushed beyond its own fear will be able to grow.  With growth there are opportunities that were hidden.   The abundant life is behind the door that is being blocked by the ego.

For most people pushing the ego aside so that they can confront their fears is hard to do, it doesn’t happen easily.   Believing that you don’t have what you need to be successful is to believe in the voice of the ego.  Believing that you have what you need now to do what needs to be done is the first step to living an authentic life.

What is the ego saying to you?

What is preventing you from living life fully?

What is stopping you from living out your dreams?

Listen to yourself.  What are the feelings that show up when you read those questions?   What is the truth about you?

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”   Anais Nin