Monthly Archives: February 2013

do you know who you are?

“Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves.
But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune. ”

 C.G. Jung

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Do you know who you are?   Not who you think you should be but who you really are?   It is easy to cover up the true you in exchange for the perceived you, the you, you’d like to be.   Being authentic will allow you to express yourself fully and comfortably.

When people have been asked “have you ever lied?” and they say no, they are are probably not telling the truth then.   Most people live behind a mask,  a mask that is used to cover up and flaws or weaknesses they have.   It could be  character flaw, or an integrity flaw, or some other issue they don’t want others to see.    Anyone who has said, “I am not good enough” in some aspect of their life to themselves has probably not told anyone else that story.   That is their belief and it is a belief they don’t want to have.    What would happen if you told everyone “I am not good enough.”, what would happen?

How well do you know yourself?  How well do you want to know yourself?

Fill out the following assessment.    Score yourself for each line from 1 to 10 (using the labels below)

Statement as it applies to you. How do you
see yourself most of the time?
Hardly ever Some of the time Most of the time Almost always
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
I speak positively about myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I support others and their ideas _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I get results frequently. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am compassionate _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I take responsibility for my actions _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I love myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I love others in my life without conditions _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with who I am _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my finances _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my physical health _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my physical appearance _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am happy with my mental health _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am valued as a person by others _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I value myself as a person _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
When I make a mistake I can forgive myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
When others make a mistake I can forgive them. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I don’t hold grudges _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I do my best in everything I do _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I don’t make excuses _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I seek personal growth _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am competent _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am confident _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am strong (physically) _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am intelligent _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am honest with myself _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am honest with others _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am authentic _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I am a person of integrity _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I meet my commitments _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
I use my strengths and talents most of the time. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _

When you are done just add up the scores for 1, 2 and 3,4,5 and 6,7,8 and 9, 10.    What was your score?  How many were 1’s or 2’s, or 3,4,5 or 6,7,8 or 9, and 10.

What area’s would you like to change?   Where do you want to improve or did you resist doing the assessment at all?

The first step to change is recognizing the areas that you could change, that could help you be more authentic.   When you are able to live authentically you’ll experience greater joy and happiness in your life.

What do you really want to change?   Start today!

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inside out

“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” ― C.G. Jung

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Does work give you your identity?    For many people the title they have, the job they have or the work they do is tied to who they are.    It creates problems when there is a job loss or a significant change.   The job title is a sense of pride, a sense of accomplishment or a way to feel valuable and sometimes it becomes a crutch for the ego.

If your identity is based on the work you do then is that what you want?

Are you doing what you believe is your true purpose?   Think about that for a minute.   If you don’t have a purpose what are you chasing?

my career my choice

“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards, they try to have more things or more money in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are then do what you need to do in order to have what you want. ”
― Margaret Young

Career choices …

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People are desiring to look for a new job.  A recent survey by Right Management indicates that many people are dissatisfied with the work they are doing right now.   This means there is the potential for a substantial shift in what and where people work.   While the sample size is relatively small it indicates that the work and amount of work that people have to do are not matching up with what employers want their employees to do.

People who desire to look for new work in 2013

2012

2011

2010

2009

Yes, I intend to actively seek a new position.

86%

84%

84%

60%

Maybe, so I’m networking.

 8%

9%

 8%

21%

Not likely, but I’ve updated my resume.

1%

2%

 3%

 6%

No, I intend to stay in current position.

5%

5%

 5%

13%

Source Right Management

Are you one of the many who are polishing up their resume and checking out the want ads for a new position?

If you are you might want to look all around you for ways to make that career transition work for you.

1. Search for your name on Google.   What shows up?  What is your on-line reputation?  Will those who are looking for you find the “right” you on-line.   What does your Facebook account contain?  What do you tweet?   What does your linkedIn profile say about you?   Know what your on-line presence is and know how others see you.

2. Understand “who” you are.   If the job you are in right now isn’t working for your skills and needs aren’t being satisfied by the work you are doing.   Know who you are before you start your job search.   This is a dig deep process into who you are.   Take the time to know your strengths, talents and abilities before you touch up your resume and look for work that you are doing today.   Doing the same work in a different location may not be the best thing for you.

3. Create a strategy.    Have a plan.   Know what you want before you start looking for a new job.   Once you have a clear idea of what you want to do, research job positions that align with your purpose.   What skills are required?  What training is needed?    If you need to develop skills make that part of your plan to get the skills needed to transfer to a new role or career.

4. Tune your resume to match the job  you are looking for.   Often people take adjust their work to match who they are.   That is even given a role with a certain set of expectations they will slowly change the job to match who they are, and do what they like rather than do what is expected.   If you find yourself changing what your role is in your job then you might be in the wrong job.    Do what you like doing and find the job that allows you to do that.   Fighting your way through each day is an indication that you may not fit the job you were hired to do.

5. Adjust.   Looking for a new job is one of adjustments and tuning.  Be willing to make small changes in your resume to match job descriptions and needs.   Be willing to adjust where you are looking and how you are looking.   Find out what is getting you results and what isn’t.

Prepare – Plan – Succeed.

Listen to a TED talk about Careers and jobs.

live out your dream

“Some ideas are not born of logic and good sense. They are made of clouds and cobwebs. They sprout from nowhere and feed on excitement, sprinkled with adventure juice and the sweet flavor of the forbidden. The psyche moves from the realms of the ordinary and takes a delicate step towards the unknown. We know we shouldn’t and that is exactly why we do.”
― Brigid Lowry

What are your dreams?   No, not the things you dream at night, but your dreams, desires and longings?   What do you really want to accomplish in your life?

What actions have you taken to get your dream off of the ground?

If you’re like most people you haven’t taken your dreams seriously.   You might be thinking dreams are for those other people, those people who have the time, the money, the …., the something you don’t have.

Your life has the greatest meaning, the greatest potential when you put into energy and heart into living out one of your dreams.   Think about it, what makes you come alive most?   Is it the work you are doing now?  Is it?

Take a step towards living that dream.  Maybe it’s making a small change in your life.  Maybe it’s taking a vacation that you’ve been thinking about for years.   Maybe it’s time right now to start doing rather than dreaming about your dream.

Explore the dream … see what a dream can look like for you.

Look at Josh’s idea of a dream.

Coaching is for …

“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” John Wooden

You want results.

You desire something better.

You want a better job.

You want more time for yourself.

You can get those things.   A coach can help you achieve far more than you think you can.   Become more confident.  Become more resilient.

Why Coaching Works

You get results when you focus on achievement.    You get results when you have a plan that you are executing on a regular basis.   You have more time when you use your time to your advantage.   Opportunities come to you more often.   Start living the life you want to create for yourself.

Change starts when you give yourself a chance to change.

What are you waiting for?

get off of your “but’s”

“Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!”
― Steve Maraboli

Get off of your “but’s

Have you ever said, “I would _______________ but _________________”?  Perhaps you have, or you’ve phrased a sentence and then added the word “but”.   But is the word that means “I have an excuse ready for not being able to do it.”   It doesn’t matter what it is the word but is what is used to stop personal and professional progress.

“I would start looking for a new job today but  I don’t have the time.”

“I would quit smoking but I enjoy  it too much.”

“I would lose weight but I stop eating.”

“I would start exercising but I don’t like doing it alone.”

Do any of those statements sound familiar to you?   How do you add the little three-letter word but into your excuses.   They are excuses aren’t they.   There is no intention of making a real change, not when the but word gets put into the sentence.   Using the word “but” gives you permission to delay or stop making the changes in your life that you know would benefit you.

Sean Stevenson would have some good excuses for not living life fully. It doesn’t appear that the word “but” is in Sean’s vocabulary. Meet Sean … listen to his story.