Start with this from Bruce Schneider the founder of iPEC coaching:
One day you will awaken to realize that you’ve spent nearly all your time worrying about things you cannot control, being bothered by insignificant annoyances, and focusing on ego-related challenges.
On that day, you will also know that you’ve missed seeing a beautiful and entertaining world; a world filled with mystery, suspense, drama, comedy, and an unlimited opportunity to observe and fully appreciate the human experience.
Hopefully, that day will come soon, because when it does, you will smile as your body fills with a warmth that you will recognize as joy and you will be incredibly grateful that you are still alive and can choose how you want to spend the rest of your life.”
How do you want to create your life?
What is stopping you?
Where are your steps taking you?
“Endings are abstruse, mystic and unreal. They are but depleted beginnings purposed to be substituted with newer ones.A transition of outlook and time, similar to our differing moods before and after slumber. Before the act we witness an exhaustion, a sulkiness but on gaining consciousness, we’re rejuvenated and good humored. The wakefulness is the new beginning whereas the tension the disturbance we perceive each night is the weariness of the beginnings, of each day. So there never really is an end, all that there are are beginnings. Beginnings which are promising, which offer hope, which have a new leash on life, which neither denounce nor belittle rather soothe and console by reconstructing the broken pieces of yesterday, mending them and reinforcing them with courage and beauty like never before.”
― Chirag Tulsiani
A few short days from now it will be time to design, develop and create a new plan. A plan that will help you do better, to live more fully, to exhibit greater joy, to experience life at its best. It’s time to being again.
Break free from the troubled past and embrace the unfolding moment with vigor. Change what you can change. Focus on becoming your best. Maybe it didn’t happen in the past 12 months so make it happen in the next 12. Give it a try.
“Every person needs to take one day away. A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future. Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence. Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.”
― Maya Angelou
Take a break! Stop for a few minutes and stop doing and breathe. If your only focus is on doing then it will become your undoing. The brain needs a break and you need a break. You can optimally perform for only short periods of time. Trying to perform at a high level for a long period of time doesn’t work well. The brain consumes a lot of energy and that energy needs to be replenished. You can increase your effectiveness by taking breaks – 5 or 10 minutes each hour.
It is hard to take a break when everyone else appears to be busy, but are they? Are the people glued to their work really being more productive? They might be appearing to be busy and not producing as much as they could. If they are at their desk then it is hard to step away from yours to take time to move and breathe. It is time for you to get up and move. Do some deep breathing for a few minutes, get up and walk for five minutes and then restart your work. You’ll likely find that you can get more done in less time.
Plan your day so that you do have ample time to take short powerful breaks. Breath in slowly and exhale slowly for 3 minutes which can be done while you’re taking a walk. Movement and breath are both critical for maximizing your ability to think and perform.
Ideally you’d take a break every hour for 5 minutes and move.
Just begin. Take the breaks and see if your endurance and energy increases. Practice daily until it is a habit. Break free and get up and move.
“The measure of a man is what he does with power.”
What kind of power do you have?
How do you use your power?
First we have to define what power is? Is power the ability to carry out a goal despite resistance? Do you have the power to achieve your goals or do you experience some form of resistance from others or from other things? Do you have the power to influence? How did you answer those questions?
Getting out of bed in the morning means having power over self. Perhaps you have to face the temptation and desire to stay in bed. When you don’t find that activation energy to get out of bed it seems that the bed has more power than you do.
Do you have power over your habits? Do you find it easy to change the way you behave and act? Do you find it easy to change how you eat, exercise, sleep or relate to others? What would you want to change? Where would you like power that you don’t have power now?
Where does power show up at your work? Do you have equal power with others or do you feel you have less or perhaps more power than others do? If you do have power then how do you use that power? What kind of power do you have? Do you have control over outcomes?
What does your power look like? Is it power over others? Is it power through others? Is it power with others?
How do you use your power? Do you use it to create more value? Do you use it to control others? Do you use it to empower others?
Think about how you use your power. Think about how others see your power and how it impacts them. What would you like to change?
“I do believe in an everyday sort of magic — the inexplicable connectedness we sometimes experience with places, people, works of art and the like; the eerie appropriateness of moments of synchronicity; the whispered voice, the hidden presence, when we think we’re alone.”
― Charles de Lint
It only takes a moment to transform a boring, dreary day into something magical. It only takes a moment to put a smile on someone else’s face or to create a space for laughter to fill. Create a magical moment each day and see how it transforms your work, relationships and your life.
The idea is simple, put some fun in the space you occupy. Something simple, something amazing, something that is different and unexpected that can move the ordinary to extraordinary.
Too much pressure at work, too much seriousness, or too much work then make something happen that shifts the energy towards the positive. Create a magical moment that will be remembered, that illuminates the darkness with a spark of energy.
How do you create a magical moment?
1. Drop a flower on the desk of a co-worker who is feeling challenged or depressed.
2. Write a note of appreciation.
3. Ask someone to smile and take a picture.
4. Buy a random person lunch.
5. Get people to stand up and move in a meeting – disrupt the status quo.
There are hundreds of ways to make the day magical. Find one and try it. Inspire and motivate others to experience good cheer. Give them a reason to smile or laugh. You’ll feel better for it as well.
… it is possible to heal. It is even possible to thrive. Thriving means more than just an alleviation of symptoms, more than Band-Aids, more than functioning adequately. Thriving means enjoying a feeling of wholeness, satisfaction in your life and work, genuine love and trust in your relationships, pleasure in your body.”
― Ellen Bass
Are you thriving at work or are you one of the people who finds Monday filled with anxiety? It seems that many people are finding that work is becoming more stress filled and more anxiety ridden. Expectations are increasing, more tasks are being added to the daily work expectations and workers are on edge with those new burdens. What does an employee do? Continue to absorb the requests of management or find ways to create boundaries that enable success in the workplace?
If you are surviving in the workplace what would you want to see changed?
- What would it take for that change to take place?
- What kind of request do you need to make?
- What would happen if you did make a request for change? How do you know?
If you are thriving in the work environment what makes it work for you?
- What enables you to thrive?
- What do you get to do that you love doing?
- What keeps the stress manageable?
If you’re not thriving in the workplace what could be done to increase your satisfaction?
- Do you have a mentor to consult?
- Do you have a trusted adviser who could help with some ideas?
- Do you work with a coach?
If work is a daily grind find some support so you can start changing how work is impacting your life. Take time for breaks to breathe and decompress. Find time to meditate for a few minutes. Move, get up and walk to reduce the tension you experience.
Find a way to thrive in your life. It will be better for you emotionally, spiritually and physically. It’s your life, make it your best one.